Have a glass of wine and relax. Just do what comes naturally. I don't know how old he is but we all know that no one is going to pull an all nighter! Lol

The bottom line is that every first coupling with a new person is in some ways a first time whether that man is your first or way on down the line. Each coupling is different . . . some better or some worse than others. Best to broach the subject with your man that you are nervous . . . a tender, loving man will work with you to go slow and prepare you for each next step.

Personally, I insist that my first time with any man be slow and i insist on an overnight stay . . . other women may perfer not to have an all night stay . . . but I do. For me, the first time, especially, requires after sex cuddling and the reassurance that we will have some time in the morning to luxurate in the continued intimacy. Again, not everyone's cup of tea. Think about what you need and express those needs to your man. If you are not sure what you need . . . just be open about that too. Communication is the key to great sex . Good luck.

The dude doesn't know how lucky he is. My advice, keep that feeln, you won't disappoint. Guy confession, first time sex can be terrifying for us, we don't want to disappoint either, and society still to much judges us men by our prowess in this area. Be patient, if this guy isn't the one, there will be one, and yes we guys like it when the lady sometimes take charge, at least I do. Good luck.

How interesting to hear another older woman say she feels like a virgin! Been so long ago I feel like a "recycled" virgin, or "born again" virgin. As I got older I kept dating younger men. When I tried to date an older man, it was usually a disaster. I felt like saying, "Well nothing sexual is happening here, so why don't we just pee on ourselves and call it a night?" Of course I didn't REALLY say that. But I was thinking it.

Communication is key so tell him what you like ! Then ask him what he likes !

I feel like a virgin too most of the time without much real experience either. Don't think I am ugly or turn guys off but they mostly leave me alone except for the married ones. I hate when a married guy hits on me!
I go home alone and it sucks. No romance! I don't need to just to get sex but companionship sure would help.

Hi warmhues

Your post is a few months old but in my experience with men in their 60s it's less a case of us disappointing them than them disappointing us! My experience is that unless they've popped the little blue pill I'm the one in charge and taking the lead, and they usually have ED problems.

Older men aren't so driven by testosterone and don't react as quickly as younger guys so don't panic, they have trouble keeping up with us lol!

Let yourself go girl. Try being the dominate one in the sexual relationship. It does wonders and you get satisfied. If not....it's only due to not giving the correct instructions.

Best Wishes

Ha ha aka, I'll try that "Stay hard! Stay hard! Don't go limp again!" Lol :D

Livingwater, rofl....or perhaps you can pee on each other. :0)

Just take it easy. Let it goes naturally. The emotion will take you there.

I don't want to scare you but honestly I had no idea this could happen so I do want you to be aware. I'm 56 and had not had sex in over 5 years..I am almost 3 years widowed. I now have a man in my life he is 57...I had went through menopause early at age 40 and had no issues..and I really enjoyed sex...anyway as I took my relationship further with my new man when we went to make love I was mentally and physically ready so I thought. The initial penitrate was very very painful and even involved light bleeding. It hurt for days so I went to the doctor. According to doctor this is normal for women like me and was told that 1. I will need lots if lubrication 2. New man must go slow and remember that I am not 20 anymore and if things don't get better I might need to "talk to someone" So far we are following advice 1 and 2 and it is getting better...but even better than the sex is the attitude of my man...we both accept the fact that both our special parts don't work as good as before but our new sense of adventure to navigate through this together is simply beautiful...wishing you the best !!

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I am so frighted by what you have written, I have been in a sexless marriage for so long, I truly lost count of how long it has been. In the almost 20 years we have been married it was a constant struggle, he has gone back and forth on what the issue is, from he has health issues to I don't like his friends, then we tried, well I tried and he lied. I am now going through a divorce and have wondered that perhaps there could be an issue, I have my doctors ask if I have any issue during or after intercorse, I just say no. Not a lie, because you can't have an issues with intercouse when you don't have sex. I did tell a provider that we hadn't had sex in many months when I was in my mid 30's and I felt that the provider was too personal and I changed providers. Now I understand why he asked and why he was concerned with my physical and mental health. We are still living in he same house, not talking to each other, and he is on the other side of the house, it's not much different and I think he is okay with the way things are now. I am changing Gyno's found a woman who comes highly recommended, I will call and make the appointment next week, and pray can tell her the truth.
This is a big secret, we don't talk about our lack of intimacy.
I honestly wonder if not having your needs met can lead to mental issues.
Thanks for letting me vent
RosieLeary, I read the article and I thank you, it gives me some hope.