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I just read the topic "Sex vs. Love Dilemma" on the Healthy Sex Support Group."
The replies to the topic are just what I was talking about by asking the question about "How Much Openness do you want?" There this woman is having a gigantic sex-time with a man. Read the topic there and ask yourself if a person (man or woman) had a time like this, how could he/she ever be honest and truthful about it with the person they loved? In other words, could they ever tell their beloved they well love them but the sex was bland so bland compared to this affair they'd once had. Impossible. So therefore I say all this "complete honesty" stuff is so much b.s. What's your opinion?
The replies to the topic are just what I was talking about by asking the question about "How Much Openness do you want?" There this woman is having a gigantic sex-time with a man. Read the topic there and ask yourself if a person (man or woman) had a time like this, how could he/she ever be honest and truthful about it with the person they loved? In other words, could they ever tell their beloved they well love them but the sex was bland so bland compared to this affair they'd once had. Impossible. So therefore I say all this "complete honesty" stuff is so much b.s. What's your opinion?
So I agree with you - that kind of "honesty" is not right.
We can honestly keep our mouths shut, and can honestly be quiet, and we can honestly refuse to say things that are hurtful or unhealthy.
The bigger reason for these circumstances is because we now live in a licentious world where there is little morality and lots of sexual partners and that needs to be held inside of our boundaries.
If some woman told me that she had better sex with some other person - then I would say to go back to them and get her some more.
Sex is different with every person, so if one is comparing each person like a competition then I might still screw them but there would not be any real or intimate or long lasting relationship with that person.
And I too could say that some past lover was my favorite, or was the best I ever had, as like our first time is very often our best time, so every person there after is a second best.
If anyone want to compete and call it as honesty then you need to be prepared to have it thrown right back at ya.
IMO.