Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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AlyAngel
AlyAngel

I have to say that since I found out that I was pregnant in December of 2015 I have done an extremely good job with no harming myself. I didn't want my son to be taken Away from me, or people think that I am an unfit mother, so despite how bad my urges have been I have resisted, for my son. However, I will admit since September it has been hard. I got arrested on 9/11, my grandfather passed away on 9/30. On 10/19 my grandmother passed away. On Oct 8th was my grandfather's fueral, on November 5th was my grandmother's funeral. I have missed a lot of work because I have been extremely sick lately, and my son has been sick. Life has just been extremely tough lately. My mind has been going to that dark place lately. I hate that is where its going. I feel weak for having my mind going to that dark place, but I can't seem to help it. What if I am not strong enough to resist the urges. I hate this so much. 

NullFantasma
NullFantasma
Self-harm, in all shapes and forms, is difficult for people to understand until they've experienced it. Despite what such people may think, or what you've led yourself to believe, resorting to self-harm is not a sign of weakness. You're strong enough to admit that you're going through something. Heck, you've made it two whole years without hurting yourself, and I personally find that impressive, respectable even. Relapses happen. I'm not encouraging you to go through with anything, but if it happens, it's not something that defines you. Again, you're not weak. It sounds like you've been through a lot.

Resisting these urges differ amongst people, so I can't say for certain whether or not something may help you. Distractions seem to help most people. Something that you enjoy that isn't too straining. Drawing, reading, writing(maybe as like a way to vent), and for some people it's playing video games.

I'm not too familiar with these next ones, but they also help some people resist any urges. Such as taking an ice cube and squeezing it, or drawing on your skin.

I'm afraid that's all that comes to mind at the moment. I understand that both you and your son are sick at the moment, so that's probably your priority right now. Hopefully these urges will pass. Have a good day, and good luck.