Self-Injury Support Group
Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.
earlier this week i came ot realization that i've been raped 3 times in my lifetime.....all at the age of 18.....the third time really has me feeling awful.....relationship with the guy and he ended up scaring me b/c he hurt me and i had sex with him b/c i was afradi if i didn't he'd hurt me.....anyway, i feel so stupid.......there are so many "if i hadn't" sentences that i just wanna cut....i have these urges.....i ususally don't cut to punish myself, but i feel like i should......my sense of protecting myself is gone....if i couldn't protect myself from others, then why protect myself from myself??? can anyone talk some sense into me???
I understand what you are saying when you talk about feeling like you need to punish yourself. But you have to stop and ask yourself, "is what I am doing beneficial to me?" Think about what you really want. In this case I hear you saying you want to be able to keep yourself safe and protect yourself. Well, cutting yourself isnt going to help you ward off bad people. It isnt going to prevent you from getting hurt again. It isnt going to teach you anything. All it will do is keep you down and further away from the strength you really need.
Sometimes you have to be there for yourself. I would think that in your heart you want to live in a world where you feel strong and in control - safe with yourself. Well sometimes when the rest of the world fails to show us something real and positive we need to exist, you have to show it to yourself. Create the proof you have been wanting to see from others. Show yourself that you can be safe with yourself.
Breathe and take it one second at a time. Dont forget your alternative options like ice or rubber bands.
You can do this.