Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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Triggered by my son

JessicaChase
JessicaChase
When my son was living home he had a lot of compassion for me when I feared my flash backs cutting was my only relief.He was encouraging when I did not cut for a good time. I spoke with him today. He's a different man now. I know that sons have to seperate themselves from their Mothers when they get married, but is it too much to ask for just a little excitement when seeing me for the first time in months on skype? He used to be so excited to see me, but now since my last suicide attempt he has no emotional expression. I know I have wounded both my children with how I have coped with PTSD. I just miss my loving son. Having him treat me with a cold heart and distance just enhances the desire to cut.I'm trying to keep it together, while I take care of his wife and puppy till he gets home. It seems my emotions do not matter. So I hurt with rejection. I'm sorry to go on about this but I am afraid of spending time with him when he returns.Some times he's so cold hearted. I'm so sensative I do not want to get back to life after the Holidays messed up again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My mother self harmed throughout my childhood and adult years and i always found it hard to cope with that. It is hard for a person to understand why there parent would self harm because it makes them feel helpless. When i began self harming i found it helpful to explain to my family that it wasnt anything that they had done and it wasnt their fault but that it is because i have an illness that is really hard to cope with. Try explain to him that you are feeling rejection as I am sure he is not doing it intentionally and that he would not like that he is making you feel that way. When my mother self harmed i would become distant for a time but that would be because i would be afraid i would do something wrong and i would cause her to self harm. It seems you are quite involved in your sons life so i would try to talk and explain how the situation is making you feel. I hope i have been of some help!
JessicaChase
JessicaChase
poppy295 Thank you for pointing out your feelings as the child dealing with it. Helped me see and understand the quiet unspoken words that hurt him or fearful to trigger me into acting out again. It is so horrible how our own sicknesses can effect those we love the most!
I'm sorry you too had to grow up with that. I know the deep abusive memories that first come up triggered alot of cutting. I feel I am getting better still have that temptation. Hopefully we can talk when gets home and I can appologise for being mentally messed up for a while. Thank you again sweet thing...God Bless you!