Self-Injury Support Group
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It has been awhile since I have cut myself. I would say at least 6 months or more. Right now with everything that is going on I want to were I hide the box cutters and start all over again. Where do I begin.... My brother is 23 years old and he is dating a 19 year old who is my former pastors daughter. They have been dating for a little over 3 years now. The problem is she is a drug addict and alcoholic and she isn't even 21 yet. She and her family treat my brother like shit. She expectantly. He has gone in debt because of her habits and his grades at school are starting suffer because of her. You can't tell him that he should leave her because he doesn't want to here it. Well just a few days ago some friends of my other brother saw a post that she put on facebook of my garage and her bong full of her weed. She has denied it of course because she believes that she has blocked everyone who would be upset about it from it. She missed one. The garage is technically my grandmothers we just live her to take care of her. So my mom decided that if they could not respect my grandmother that they shouldn't bother coming back. I guess my brother decided that he couldn't respect grandma because I haven't seen him since then. It is affecting me because we are a close family and now my brother has disowned us all. The girlfriend who has said more than once that she is not and I repeat not in love with him wins out once again. She has just about ruined his reputation with other people because he was arrested for her drugs being his care. She is destroying his life and she doesn't even love him the way she says she does (when she is sober). I miss my brother and I hate the way he is being treated. He deserves much more and I can't get him to see that. Because of all of this I can't seem to focus on the things that I need to focus on like school. And I am so stressed out that more than half the time I am thinking about cutting myself. Which is something that I shouldn't be doing. I just need the strength not to and the will to continue my life the way I should.
valgal18
i'm sorry that that is happening......you've been clean for 6 months!!!! don't fall back into the habit!!!! i know it seems like a good idea, but will it solve anything??? will it make her love your brother??? find something else to take your stress out on....maybe punch a pillow or scream in the shower.....about your brother his girlfriend....you've tried to help and it didn't work....so now, you just have to let them deal with it....i know that you guys are close, but he doesn't want to listen, so you can't do anything about it.....i'm sorry to say that.....i know it sucks, but things will only get worse if you don't sit back and watch..i hope this helped...if you wanna talk, i'm here
guycountry
Thanks but it's not easy. Funny thing a big part of what kept me clean was him. And now that is gone. Makes thing a lot more difficult.
LoveAlice
You can't control what your brother does at all. Maybe accepting that you cannot change him or make his choices for him would help? He is in control of his life, so no matter what he is going to decide what to do about his life and girlfriend. I think he will come around eventually. In the meantime though, you need to focus on YOU.
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