I would feel almost violated if a friend of mine did that. Have you told her that it offends you? Some people dont know the impact their words have, whether they be true or not.

That's just awful! :O

Thankyou! I thought I was going crazy and being over sensitive. I mean, in all honesty, I haven't told her about myself. However, she has asked before. I just don't think you should go around proclaiming it like it is a virtue. It is not something to be flashed around to make you cool or edgy. This girl tries so hard to be unique and different. She just needs to stop trying so hard.

You can explain how you feel without saying that you yourself are a cutter. You could try maybe doing a little research with her on cutting so she can see that it is not something to be putting out into the world when there are actual people suffering because of it. Or maybe just go shopping for dark clothes. She can change her image visually if that is all she is looking for or dye her hair red. That will really make her stand out.

This sort of thing makes me so damn angry I could spit. I had a 'friend' who would scratch herself and then play the tragic, suicidal heroine; telling anyone and everyone how she wanted to die and would cut to feel better.

I think this more than pretty much anything else gets to me. I would give your friend a smack round the head personally, but that's just me.

I saw someone else's answer saying that you should maybe talk to her about how her lies make you feel. She really needs to understand that this doesn't make her cool or edgy. It makes her a liar.

In my circle of frIends, it's like an unspoken thing that we never talk about cutting unless I need help and I reach out for it. They don't want to even think about me hurting myself unless they have to. If this girl was around me (or any of my friends for that matter) she would get a nice broken nose and something to really cry about.

Unique and different in a "goth/emo" kind of way...then she's just molding herself to the stereotype and isn't unique or different at all. If she really wants to stand out, tell her to change her lies and maybe she will discover who she really is instead of believing her own lies.

Wow that sounds tough, i hate when friends are like that, you really have to try hard to see the good. Maybe you should try being super blunt with her and come out with a comment when she says something, maybe a long the lines of "You know i actually struggle with self harm, it's really hurtful when you keep joking about it." Then see what she says? xx

Thanks guys. Next time it comes up, I am going to talk to her. I want to get to the bottom of this.

If she is that desperate for attention, the girl's got issues. She's probably going through a lot to crave attention that badly... It breaks my heart to think about someone thinking "Maybe if they think I am hurting myself, maybe then they will care." It sounds like a very very small step from "Maybe if I hurt myself, then they will care." Yes, you should talk to her about it, and tell her it offends you.

Just keep in mind, everyone is different. Everyone copes differently. And be loving. Above all, be loving.