Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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lostinausten 08/08/2015

So I've been cutting for a few years now and only recently did my best friend find out. She told me it's unhealthy and I need to stop but I don't see it that way. I see it as a lesser of two evils. I'm not killing myself or hurting anyone else. And it actually helps stop the pain. I know it's not a "normal" thing to do so I do try to stop but how do you stop when you don't really see it as a bad thing?

valgal18 08/09/2015

i understand what you say when you say it's the lesser of two evils......i thought the same thing for a little while until i realized that i get that short release and that it's not a long term fix.....like you said it's hard to stop when you don't see it as a bad thing....but what are you really solving when you cut?? yes, you stop the pain for a little while, but it eventually comes back, right?? therapy has really helped me with my self injury issues as well as other things and i'm an advocate for it, so i think therapy might be a good idea.....you can try different ways to get the emotional pain out....i found that stretching and yoga works because i feel that burn in my muscles....exercise works, too.....running, jogging, walking, swimming.....i hope this helped....if you wanna talk, please feel free to message me

lostinausten 08/09/2015

I am runner which I agree helps a lot too. On several occasions it has stopped me from cutting. If only you could exercise 24/7.

Razor91 08/09/2015

I know the feeling, I had a relapse a few months ago and didn't see the harm in it, but it took others concerns for me to realise that its not sometime you can just brush off and say its not a problem especially if its gotten to the point where you cant recognise the area that you are harming.
For me, its one day at a time and if something happens that makes me want to hurt myself, I try and wait out the feeling for as long as I can, distracts are good, but recently I've found just sitting, acknowledging the feeling and pushing through it helps even though its saddening.

tryingtobestrong5 08/10/2015

I know the feeling too well. Just remember that there are people who love you so if you don't think it's wrong to cut, it'll still cause pain for those who love you. Like you're here for me, I'm here for you too. I wish you the best :)

lostinausten 08/10/2015

I think the hardest part is when I have those dark moments I'm not thinking about the consequences or that it's not a healthy thing to do. I just know I'm hurting and I just want that to stop so I stop it with only way I know. It's almost like I'm a different person at those times. I just wish I knew how to stop thinking that way.

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