Self-Injury Support Group
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My boyfriend and I were laying in bed the other night.. we were joking around and wrestling over his phone and he saw my wrist.. there's a cut going from my wrist to the middle of my arm.. he grabbed my arm and looked at it until i pulled it away.. he kept asking why.. and i dont even know how to answer... i feel so guilty.. its not his fault, but i know he feels like it is.. how am i supposed to explain it to him?
Explain it to him that its a emotion that you cant control explain your pain to him
It does sound however, that you really did mean to hide this from him.The other response is completely correct. If he loves you , cares about you, then he will want to understand you. If someone makes you feel like bad girl or like a monster for doing it , then they are either scared or entirely blindsided by it. If the latter is the case, I would give time for him to reflect and think on what he saw. It could be with a little time he may see it differently and attempt to understand.
Remember Love is supportive. If you both care about one another you will support eachother. I would say explain you're feelings. Why you did it. Remember don't say things like "you" or "We" , Always use the I. I feel this way when I .... or when I felt this way I ...
and finally after you both have that talk, ask him clearly for his support. Make it known you have some work to do, but that you will be grateful for his support.
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