I think that it does make him a self harmer, but it's just not extreme which is good. I would tell him that you understand him and maybe open up to him about your self harm. I wish you the best with this. :)

I do bite my hand, but I don't know if it would be considered self harm. I suppose it could. I also don't usually break the skin, but sometimes I do. I have been trying to stop doing it because of infections, which I am very prone to and usually end up in ICU. I still catch myself doing it. I think I do it more out of nervous habit than intentionally trying to harm myself, but in my case it certainly is dangerous and I am struggling to stop it.

Thinking about it, on occasion I have done it to intentionally to self harm. Usually I do it absent mindlessly like biting a pencil.

I tend to bite myself when I can't get to my razor blade.

It's possible, it's also possible he used to self harm with cutting and he switched to what he does now.

When things become overwhelming I bite my fists or my arms to the point of leaving indented marks. I also pull my hair out and punch anything hard that won't break. (i.e., concrete... or my beat up car... which I ended up denting, so that doesn't count in the "won't break" area.) or in worst case scenarios, I start banging my head into something hard. It's awful, but I've had quite a past few years...

I stopped cutting a while ago for the love of my life, then I failed this past year after having over a year without cutting... promised him I would never do it again. And I intend on keeping that promise. He know's about the biting/punching/hair pulling and that makes him feel awful as well but he knows i'm at a point where it's almost a natural reaction for me when things become too overwhelming... God Bless him, he tries to help calm me down and stop me. I still don't know how I deserve him. I feel terrible that he has to go through all this with me.

But anyway (sorry, having a horrid night) it's a possibility. From my studies of self-harm, it does constitute as a form of it... anything resulting in injury to oneself with the knowledge of doing so really constitutes as self harm, though many people don't know this.

Hugs to you, take care

MaryMayhem - I've done all those things too, including leaving a dent in a car or two. With me it's all being overwhelmed with emotions.

i cut myself but when i feel bad and people are around i bit my wrists it might be similar to that

Hey i bite my fingernails but past the point of the usual people would do. I do it till they bleed. I was a wrist cutter, but i got tattoos which i love so that i dont do my wrist anymore. Sometimes i do not even realise i am doing it, just a habit.

I bite my hands, fingers, arms, ect.....because I am not good with horrible pain but if the stress, anger, or pain is bad enough i throw away my hatred bad pain and cut. I do think this makes him a self harming, because it is harming his body, I have bit m fingers bad enough there are bruises.

Thank you so much for your support, you're really helping. but I have something else to add. I think he may be suffering from erectile dysfunction as well as a difficult history romantically. could those two things have contributed to his current state?

if he's stressing out about that, feeling ashamed, guilty, etc, then yes, it could be contributing. but instead of guessing how he's feeling, i would sit down and open up about your self-injury. then hopefully he'll feel comfortable enough to talk about his, whether it's a bad habit or more intentional.