Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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paoflavia 04/13/2009

why do I feel like if my emotions are not understanding my thougths? I feel my emotions...like they attack me, even if I am doing ok. All of a suden I feel all that pain inside myself, I start to think in SI to get that pain out that mix of emotions that make feel it will be better to not be alive.

deleted_user 04/13/2009

For me, I have to say YES!

I have an emotional disorder, which in my case means that my emotions tend to control me! I have to fight so hard sometimes just to keep some form of sanity!

Emotions aren't logical, that's the whole problem with them; they can't be reasoned with. All you can do is try and ride them out, and hope that you'l make it through to the other side without being too badly hurt.

tattyhead184 04/13/2009

This is going off on a bit of a tangent but I've been on medications for epilepsy which can certainly have an effect on mood. In that respect I can identify with what you're saying - I had no control over my thoughts and emotions either. So yes, they can have a life of their own. I remember when I took some herbal sleeping tablets, I developed quite bad depression and it wasn't until ages later that I found the tables were to blame. I'm just wondering if you're on any kind of medication at all yourself - could it be having an effect?

deleted_user 04/13/2009

i think emotions have a life of their own, they choke the life out of me

deleted_user 04/13/2009

I have learned though the yrs that emotions can and do have a life of their own, if what you mean is they seem to take over.. what I did and do is try to control them and for the most part I am sucessful..I have been in DBT therapy for yrs and have been learning how to deal with stressfull situations and how to destress myself.. I usted to self harm but have not done it for over 2 yrs and part of the reason for that is that I just try to remember that I am the one in control not my emotions, emotions are just that emotions, but there is reasons for them and what I had to do was work it though with the help of a good therapist to deal with the issues that were causing the emotions... this is very hard work but very worthwhile... I do hope this answers your question...... sweets

deleted_user 04/13/2009

PS to the above..... I dont mean to sound like I dont fight this because I still do there are times that I want to so bad, but I try to find someway to destract myself and I seem to be able to do that..I am proud of myself for not giving in to the need for lack of a better word.. I also look at my scars and see them for what they are.. some people think they look ugly and dont like to see them but I look at mine and see how far I have come.... hopefully you will get there too.... (sweets)

paoflavia 04/13/2009

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. It helps to know I am understood. I am starting DBT next week, I hope it helps me.
Thanks!!

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