Some times it come across that way that there being cold. Most of the time they don't mean to and they don't realize there doing it. But that is the problem with emails the person sending it might of meant it one way but you took it a different way.

well congrats on going to counseling in the first place, a lot of counselors now a days only care about the money and arent very kind ive met couple of them like that, but there are better counselors out there dont give up. hugs feel better sweetie

I wouldn't read too much into it e-mails cannot show emotions all empathy and caring are lost in translation !! congrats on going I too just started last week !! good luck ... I'm usually around in the evening if you need to talk !!! ((((HUGS))))

my therapist had never doen anythingl ike this before....if i were you i would either go back OR write her an e-mail and tell ehr how you feel.....use words from the e-mail.....just TRY....she may feek bad ir she may say that's not what she meant ot say...good luck!!!!!!!!

First, congratulations on your decision to seek help, it sounds like that was a difficult thing for you. I have been going to counseling for quite a while and like you, it was difficult for me to ask for help. You don't say exactly what was said in her answer which makes it difficult to comment on whether it's "normal" or not. What I can tell you is that sometimes the first therapist just may not be a good fit. Therapist are people to and sometimes for "whatever" reason the two of you may just not have compatible personalities.

I would urge you not to give up. I believe my current doctor and I have a great therapeutic relationship, however he is the third person I sought help from due to just not feeling "good" about the first two I saw. Not to say they were not great therapist, just not great for me.

Don't give up on yourself so easily, you are definitely not "worthless". You took the first step and should be proud of yourself, keep looking and asking for help. YOU deserve it!!! Hugs!!!

I have been burned by so many "counselors" it is really hard. They do only look at us as dollar signs. To them it is just their job to us it is our lives and the thing (SI) that is controlling our lives

That kind of attitude, though can happen a lot, is still unacceptable. Dont bother with them.

It is normal, however, for you to feel hurt and crap by it. Especially after what it took for you to open up it is understandable to sort of go back into turtle shell mode. (I know because I am the master of turtle shell mode.)

You should be proud of yourself for going and taking a chance! You are trying to recover and help yourself and that is an awesome thing! This lady's reaction has everything to do with her and NOTHING to do with you so try to keep that in mind that her actions say NOTHING about you.

There are so many bad counselors out there. I remember when I was searching for the one I have now I ended up being on the phone with this one lady who spoke like the world revolves around her, put words in my mouth and was just plain full of herself and didnt care. Did not make me feel great - needless to say I did not call her again.

And it is such a shame because such a large part about counseling is feeling comfortable with the therapist. Ive gone through so many I dont even know what number my current one is but its probably somewhere around 10. BUT - I will say I am very comfortable with the one I have now and she is very good.

So don't give up because you DO deserve good treatment! If you are ready to begin your recovery than you should have the best care availible to help you.

Keep on searchin. Go through insurance, etc. I usually search for therapists, etc using psychologytoday.com . You can see their creditials, specialties, etc right there before even contacting them.

Good luck!

Counselors and therapists are taught to keep their "professional distance" with their clients, that is, to not get too emotionally involved... which can come across as them being "cold" or lacking in compassion. Which is why I've had trouble connecting with some of my therapists in the past. The good ones are better at walking that line, showing compassion without "going too far," professionally speaking. It's kind of a difficult balance they have to master, and some aren't as good at it as others.