Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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Smaraly 08/11/2010

I have 15 scars on my arm and will probrably make more. I've been clean for about 2 months. But what can i do when the pain start calling to be released and seen, viewed by all who've hurt and angered me and shown so that other will see my pain. It's not a cry for attention or love far from it. Its a show of my pain that has been allowed to be released.
It helps hide the true pain i feel but only for so long. Then the cycle starts right back over. where i try to keep my promise and stop hurting myself. But soon rage will take over and promises forgotten. Besides it seems the person i made the promise to has vanished into thin air and no longer cares...
Will i ever be able to stop? i can only fight for so long before it hurts to much. How can i stop?

hlep 08/11/2010

iv been fighting this sice i was 9years old and know im 30 and still cutting i wish i could tell you a way to stop sweety but i have not found a way to stop

deleted_user 08/11/2010

thats my story and i think its everybodys story here, wish i couldhelp you. people told me to concentrate doing thing i like, to write aboutit, none of these things helped me but maybe they help you. good luck

deleted_user 08/11/2010

You have to find something that's more important than the cutting, orsomething that, if you cut, you can't reach.
I went 22 months, slipped, and have gone now 16 months.

deleted_user 08/12/2010

I will be going to see a therapist before too long and hopefully they can help me. If I find out something I will let you know. I mean I am a grandmother and should be past doing these things.

deleted_user 08/12/2010

I have been fighting this since I was 17 years old and I am now 22 and still stuggle with it. It is hard to stop. If I knew how to stop cutting I could tell you.

deleted_user 08/12/2010

Are you seeing a therapist? Do you have a strong set of coping skills? The pain may never fully go away, but you have full control over how you deal with that pain.

deleted_user 08/12/2010

You are still young, maybe you will stop, some of us continue though.

For me now it comes in bursts when I am suffering high stress levels, when there is alot of frustration and/or invalidation in my life.

Therapy has definately helped me and I find that meditation and coming on DS and writing about my experiences helps.

I wish you all the best.

susie3g 08/12/2010

Reply #6 - 08/12/10 6:06pm
" Are you seeing a therapist? Do you have a strong set of coping skills? The pain may never fully go away, but you have full control over how you deal with that pain. "

Is that really true? Do we really have control over how we deal with the pain? I mean, I'm pretty sure there are a lot of us who use cutting AS our set of coping skills, and some know no other way to calm themselves. I'm not so sure that I have FULL control over how I deal with pain.

deleted_user 08/12/2010

I have been dealing with this since I was 14 and I am 32 now. I have long periods of being clean and then one day out of the blue it starts up again. I'm in therapy and trying to learn better coping skills. I've been clean 8 days so far...

Liz65 08/12/2010

My name is Liz65 and I am 45 years old and I still do self-harm,there has to be something to help us stop doing self-harm.It is soo hard to stop.I know that it is for me. I am here for you all.take care.HUGS

smallgirl3 08/12/2010

yea i'm in the same place as you right now...trying so hard to stop but can't make it more than a couple weeks. anyway feel free to friend me or talk to me anytime :)

deleted_user 08/13/2010

I think that we can stop but we will always have the urges and impulses to do it again

deleted_user 08/13/2010

My name is Treanna Christine... I'm 19 years old, and I've been clean since February of 2007.

I can help you.

deleted_user 08/14/2010

i started aged 11 and am 21 at the end of the month and although im clean now i havent stopped its been nrly a month since i last cut but i know it will be back and i have given up tryin to stop we can cut down and have clean periods but i dont believe we ever stop!

here if u wanna chat

deleted_user 08/14/2010

I don't think we can ever really stop. I go through cycles myself. I'll go months or so and not cut or even think about cutting. Then I'll hit this period of extreme cutting. I'll cut myself 10 times or more a night, each cut usually needing stitches. I'll do this for a month or until it gets to a point where I have no clear patches of skin left to cut on. Then I'll stop for a few months. Then repeat and so forth. That's pretty much been my pattern for the last 15 years or so. And to perfectly honest, I really don't even think I want to stop.

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