Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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beilkat0 02/13/2017

The other day was a good day. Things were nice, but yet I still have the urges. I feel like an addict but its not to drugs or alcohol, its to self harm. I have tried to stop but now I am at the point it doesnt bother me. But I have no clue how to stop. I am on medicine and I have a profesesional I talk too but I have no idea how to even stop this wreck of a train. Any ideas?

wild_and_free 02/13/2017

I'm in the same boat as you! I'm addicted to the feeling but I know I need to stop. Taking it day by day. Trying journal more and do things that make me feel good.

Have you tried using a red marker (if you cut) or wearing a rubber band around your wrist and snapping it? Those are things my therapist told me to do. Might try it.

beilkat0 02/14/2017

I tried the only problem is it is the pain I am looking for the red marker did not help. But the rubber band is a good idea but I got destructive with it :/ Right now the only thing stopping me at his moment is that I have to go on vacation which forces me into short sleeves

Michelle98 02/15/2017

Another alternative to cutting is rubbing an ice cube on the area that you usually cut. The cold hurts after a while and supposedly is close to the same effect as cutting but doesn't actually harm you at all. Just keep experimenting with different, healthier ways to release the feelings and satisfy the urges.

cassichase 02/16/2017

So, all that has been said here are all good ideas to alter the focus onto some other physical act of distraction. In other words less harmful coping skills. I have been at that place.

The thing that really made a difference in my heart and mind was the thought that God loves me. He weeps when I have harmed myself, because He knows the darkness I've lived through. He is a gentle God filled with compassion and He cares about our well being. When I hurt, He is hurting also.

I had to work on my self hatred. I have been in therapy for years now. I've been learning to love myself as God loves me. I had to want to change. I prayed for the willingness to change.

Psalm 51:12 "Restore to me the joy of your salvation and sustain me with a willing spirit," has been my prayer and He is meeting me in that. I've learned that if I fix my mind on God, God fixes my mind.

I wish there was some way to help you understand the that there is an end to this madness. Exodus 22:27 says, "when you cry out to God He will hear you, for He is a compassionate God." I hope you come to know Him, truly know him for who He is, He is love and He cares for you!

I will be praying for you!

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