Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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COUNTRESSS 09/21/2012

Hey everyone. Ive got a serious problem darn Facebook got me in touch with a X- Boyfriend that im still in love with but i was a terrible drunk. He says i cheated with his bass player and i would leave him at home and id go to the bar drunk. Well we were friends for 5 months i was writing him Sexual Novels on Aol and i got to Novel 8 and he flipped out and said were not f---kin.Ok whatever but about 2 weeks ago i said something not quite sure what i said but he blocked me. Ans then he sent me a messeage saying hes gone a lot of years without dealing with me. I just cant say whatever i want act or do whatever i want. Ive tried like hell to tell him I suffer from 4 Major Mental Disordres im a cutter i post my cuts on facebook and 3 days ago i gave myself a Black Eye really bad ive got one hell of a punch but ive got to let this go.But i wont.!! I will just keepin him in my mind hoping one day he will come back the cuttin and Black Eyes have nothin to do with him ive been doing this for 10 years now. Thanks.

deleted_user 09/21/2012

Hey. Maybe it's not a good idea to try to make things work with him since he was accusing you of stuff. He sounds kind of controlling and rude, but I don't know him or anything so I don't know. And maybe it's not good to post cuts and stuff on facebook because people might think you just do it for shock value to get attention and stuff. I'm not trying to like sound mean or anything that's just how most people take it.

deleted_user 09/24/2012

First off posting your injuries to yourself on facebook probably is not the best idea in the world. As for dragging this guy down with you through the drunkeness and the self injury why would you even want to do that if it's someone you care about? You said your self, sometimes you can't even remember what you say to him. Mental Illness and self injury is not an excuse to hurt the people we care about, neither is being a drunk. We try to use it as one, but it's not. If you really care about this guy it sounds like it's time to let him go live his life and leave him alone. And you need to work on getting your life straight and living your life.

Take care,

Kat

deleted_user 09/28/2012

I feel like what katlyn said was harsh. please don't feel like you have to hurt yourself or anything because of it, i just don't think she understands.

and I do not use any of my problems as excuses to hurt others. I dont even hurt people. my abusers used me as excuses to hurt me ever since i was born, so they didnt even blame it on their personal problems. i just really dont think thats what countress was trying to say here.

posts are suppose to be supportive, not judgmental. we arent suppose to make people feel worse or act as if they did something wrong and word things in a sarcastic way without even trying to understand.

DreamWeaver101 09/29/2012

Dear COUNTRESSS,

I'm not sure if you remember me, although that's hardly relevant. Posting cuts on Facebook... Bad idea. Really. My advice, should you choose to take it, is to stop posting cuts on FB and let this guy go. I know it's a lot harder than it sounds, believe me, I know! But sometimes you have to make the harder choice for the greater good. There will be other people in your life. And here's the thing: there are six billion people in the world, are you really going to let one person ruin your day?

Best,
DreamWeaver101

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