hello I’m new to this site and I really just wanted I place to be open and ask questions. 

So I’m in about a three month old relationship with my first boyfriend and he is the only one who has ever known about my self harm. I told him about it and how I haven’t done it in a while which gave him the comfort that it was something in the past and I shouldn’t focus on that negative part of my life.

however the past year I have peaks of relapse after months have past and I had one recently. I just don’t know how to bring it up to him without sounding needy or desperate for attention. I’m also scared that since I appreciate my body like he can he will be angry or I’m going to ruin the relationship with my self harm. I’ve never talk about my self harm with him in person which also scares me to bring it up because it feels like something I’m suppose to ignore because we’ve never push forward to ever talk in depth about me experience either coping and anxiety.