Self esteem Community Group
a place for ppl who have self esteem difficulties
Hi, I am new to this group. But in some real need of help with my self-esteem.
I have been having and especially hard time recently. I feel like everyone sees and ugly person. I rarely smile because I feel like it wont help. I am trying to find someone who will love and accept me for me. But my heart says no one likes a sourpuss, or debbie downer. Which is what I consider myself. Depression is a big factor in my life aswell. I just feel really mixed up inside as well.
I have been having and especially hard time recently. I feel like everyone sees and ugly person. I rarely smile because I feel like it wont help. I am trying to find someone who will love and accept me for me. But my heart says no one likes a sourpuss, or debbie downer. Which is what I consider myself. Depression is a big factor in my life aswell. I just feel really mixed up inside as well.
Number one, stay away from anyone else in your family or friends thats a downer. You need optimism in your life.
Number two don't watch or read any depressing shows or books. Alot of comedies and less drama, love stories are great as long as a they have a happy ending. A little action is good but not too much personal violence.
Number three start learning art or music. They help alot as you improve join a local group for that in you area.
Number 4 - buy a book on meditation or go to a local place that teaches you and start meditating daily. Do this regularly in your life.
Number 5 exercise - I have always been overweight but when I started exercise for my mental health the weight just slowly came off. I didnt focus on weight loss anymore. More on feeling better internally.
Number 6 - Intelligence- always work on this with reading, brain excercises and classes. This helps you see things clearly and not manifest on the bad. If you keep your mind busy you have less time to focus on the bad stuff.
Number 7 - beauty, even though we dont focus all our attention on external beauty its good to work on it a bit. Learn about it with a good overall beauty book. That teaches how to put make-up, good posture, great hair. I have met some women that were not gifted per say in natural beauty according to society but were gorgeous cause they. Got their hair done at the salon. They visited an esthetician and got facials to help with skin issues. They got their eyebrows professionally shaped. They got body massages or treatments to feel good and glowing. Body scrubs are great for this. They picked a clothing style and started buying clothes in a complimenting color and style. No matter your size you can do the same. I am a large woman and I am complimented on my bold style always. I dress for me but also use clothing to compliment my figure and looks. I love green for instance but it doesnt compliment my skin tone neither does red. Find your colors. Also, I found that my eyes, lips and hair are great. I try and bring those out with make-up. Once I developed my style I dont fuss with it too much anymore. I know what works.
Number 8 always read or learn about your disorder with books and pro therapy. It helps in learning to live around it.
Number 9 - appreciate self daily, compliment your best qualities every day. actually say them
Number 10- keep a happy diary. This book is not for dealing with bad things its for writing great ideas down. Putting down goals for 3 month, 6 months, 1 year and five years. Writing only stuff that makes you happy. Write on the front of it MY HAPPY DIARY!!! When you feel down go back and read it often. You will feel good and know where you are always headed.
Good luck if you need a friend just contact me. Happy New Year. Know that you are special and unique just develop your talents!