Truth? I quit my job.

But, before I quit, I did alright. The down side was that I lost my temper with the kids when I was exhausted and had little enthusiasm for my husband or anyone else.
It all got done...meals, streamline. Make two week dinner meal plan and shop for it. Give up on some of the fresh and time consuming things.
*Freezer lasagna and bag salad, mac and cheese and chicken nuggets or froz fish, Velveeta Hamburger helper and grapes, pizza delivery on Fridays, husband grilled chicken 1xweek with different marinade, frozen hamburger patties, etc)
Shop for all this WITH your husband. Have your kids buy school lunch 3x week and only pack 2x. Have the two packing days be together so you make their lunches all at once (so two kids = 4 lunches). Say yes to a FAST meal eating out - better than fast food but less than a full hr.

Tell your husband the one hour per day that is yours and get his help to be sure you take it. Close the bedroom door and do not come out for that one hour. Take a bath, sleep, read. Just do it.

You and your husband alternate one weekend morning that you and he get to sleep in so that every other week - you get til 10am while he has kids and vice versa.

Let the drycleaners do the absolute mandatory ironing. For all the rest, just steam or fluff in dryer. Get kids to pick out two days of clothes ahead of time.

I don't work now so during the day, I can clean slowly and cook casseroles slowly, even bake some. While working, you just cannot make it happen so figure out your shortcuts and implement them. Keep your time with family to just spending time - not energy.

I'm sorry you are having a time of it. Hang in there.

Thanks Bcatz! I love all of your wonderful suggestions! I am going to use every last one!

I had a really hard time with fatigue until I started on biologic meds. MTX helped some.
I work full time too, it requires advance planning and a lot of help from my DH. Frozen foods are a life saver!

I have to think about my bucket of energy. Everyday, I examine it to see what's in there and then think about every activity as either adding to or taking from the bucket. And when it's empty, it's EMPTY! Anything to cut corners helps-- buy the bags of shredded cheese, buy pre-chopped vegetables, use the Landry detergent "pods," be as efficient as possible, whenever I go into a room or downstairs, it's never for just one thing! Take your b vitamins, especially b-12, remember to breathe-- do a deep breathing meditation, I do one that is just 10 minutes long, but it helps, squeeze in just little more sleep or rest time anyway you can-- go to bed when the kids do! Notice the people who are energy vampires in your life and avoid them! Do not do anything for your children that they are capable or almost capable of doing for themselves! Pare your life down to the essentials and focus on them. Stay hydrated. Put your feet up. Take frequent small breaks. I often work in a pattern of 15 minutes on, 5 minutes off. And I say my prayers. Hugs to you. Be kind to yourself.

I don't have kids or a husband, but I am working 2 jobs (1 full time and 1 part time), and I've got 4 cats and a turtle that demand pretty much my full attention when I'm home. And I'm exhausted all the time. But working all the time is what I need to do to take care of myself and my pets, and to keep my health insurance, which I'm sure I don't need to explain to everyone here how important that is. Truthfully, I take medication to help me stay awake that my psychiatrist prescribed. Without it, due to the combination of working so many hours, the sedating meds I was taking for my RA, migraines and anxiety, and the fatigue from the RA itself, I was quite literally falling asleep at my desk. I'm not trying to tell everyone to just take meds to keep them awake - that's not an option for everyone, but it has been an absolute livesafer for me.

As for practical things you can do - non-pharmaceutical interventions - bcatz had some great ideas. I definitely do the cook everything at once thing. When I get a rare free day (or at least half a day), I cook 3-4 huge meals that make 4-6 portions each, and put some in the fridge and some in the freezer, and then I have lunches and dinners for 2-3 weeks, all from cooking for a couple of hours. And I have a food processor, which is a godsend when it comes to chopping vegetables and shredding cheese so that I don't have to spend the extra money on preshredded stuff and I don't have to kill my hands chopping and shredding everything.

Coffee.

Oh my goodness - a food processor! I don't have one of those. Christmas wish list!

I lowered my expectations and didn't try to do everything all the time. Plus, I had my kids step up and take on more chores. But they're not little...13, 11, and 8. My older two do their own laundry, vacuum once a week each, do the dusting. Each do dishes 2x's a week, trash duty, and recycling. When I'm having a good day, I'll mop or clean the bathroom. But if I don't have the energy and something must be done, I might clean just the sink and wait for another good day to do the shower. I don't care...it eventually gets done.