Rheumatoid Arthritis Support Group
Rheumatoid arthritis is a chronic, inflammatory, multisystem, autoimmune disorder. It is a disabling and painful condition which can lead to substantial loss of mobility due to pain and joint destruction. The disease is also systemic in that it often also affects many extra-articular tissues throughout the body including the skin, blood vessels, heart, lungs, and...

Seriously, we GET it. We KNOW it's not easy for the spouses.
I agree you should just stay here. If you ask something, we will answer it from our experience. That includes things like how my poor husband had to lift me when I was bed ridden last year, and feed and dress me. That was too much for me to watch. Next time, I would see about home care if I get that bad.
He is very supportive, but I don't want him hurting his back and suffering because of my disease!