ohhhhhhhhhhhman ((((((((((((((Kimberly)))))))))))))) dang woman!! for one thing I have found that doctors are quick to lecture about weight but the only solution they offer is "just push yourself away from the table" PPPPPFFFTTTTT!!!! :p if they aren't going to really help they need to keep their mouth SHUT!!! so for now put what that fool said aside and just work on feeling better...

oh kimberley! i feel bad for you. but this is the time you need to be strong enough. i understand how you feel about your hubby going out on a business trip with a female emp. i feel ya. but trust me, everything will be fine. he will be back soon and of course he too will miss you.

stay strong kimberley. i have the same issues about my weight. trying my best not to gain, but its not in my hands. 25 lbs more than my pre pregnancy weight. dont know when will i lose all these lbs. i have started myfitnesspal app and i am controlling what i am eating and trying to stay fit. bcoz i cant exercise too with these pains. for me, i feel happy if i am able to walk without any pains. my knees are a big problem. now my ankles started hurting too. so reducing those extra pounds are very imp for me but i dont know what to do. you are not alone.

feel better. i know its rough time now, but hope for the best. everything will be ok again. take care. you need some rest.

Thanks so much. I haven't even been eating a lot lately been too sick eat mostly soup. But your right he has really no idea if the BIG HUGE ENORMOUS picture of it all.

pregnancy gave me extra 10 lbs
prednisone another 10 lbs
mtxt another 5 lbs

i too eat very less. but one thing i can admit is prednisone made me more hungry and i craved for food a lot. by the time i realised that it was too late. i already gained 10 lbs on it. so i am very cautious now about my wiehgt and the meds i take and what i eat.

yikes ..what the heck kinda dr.acts like that ?? i dont get those kind of people (doctors ) ..
How long have you been married ? I'm sure he loves you for all that you are ..dont worry :) i dont know about you but if the shoe was on teh other foot ..would you REALLY want another man ?? just kidding ...hope you feel better ... and you always have that nice smile on your face ..so oyu are stronger then you think KIm.

Been married 20 years. It's not so much that I think he would cheat just feeling inferior to a thin pretty business women right now. It's all me I kno he loves me I just hate where I'm at now just having a real hard time seeing the light at the end if tunnel. Heck I'm having a hard time seeing the end if the tunnel at all

definately understand ...20 yrs is great we're 16 ..i have wondered too if my husband will eventually look at me differntly ..my body is changing ...and my mind a little ..but i hope that the time we have sepnt togther ..the ups the downs ..the good .all will matter to him someday when this gets really really bad ...i keep mentioning our wedding vows in ajoking way once in a while .. or it ell him i will be there for him if he would get sick or a disease (has gout ) and ow watching me hes afraid of it happening to him self , he woke up with a sore back and ran to the chiropractor this morning ...you will be fine kim.. you ARE strong ...and still a woman no matter what ,,maybe when he gets back you can do something a littel romantic ..not anything that would hurt ..but maybe sit outside together and enjoy the stars one night :)

Kimberly! Please find a new doctor!!!!! That one is looking for anything to blame your issues on...without having to find the REAL reason behind it.

We all understand what this disease, and the meds, can do to our bodies, exercise routines, eating habits, etc. Most of us are in the same place. Hang in there!

As for the hubby traveling; mine travels every week. Leaves on Monday's and comes home on Friday's. He's always with someone younger, prettier, skinnier, smarter, etc., than I am. But in the end...if he doesn't love me enough to stay faithful to me then I don't need him. That's how I manage. I have too many other things to focus on. What's that saying "que sera, sera"

Live for you, love you, take care of you. Having confidence in yourself and showing your strength, even at our weakest, is very very attractive. Its the inside that counts.

Hi Kimberley, of all folks your MD should not make you feel that way. How does he have time to take a 15 minute -20 minute slot of time to complain about a patient's weight. I think I would be looking for another PCP. You don't need to be insulted at an MD visit of all places. He should realize that Prednisone does cause you to have an increased appetite and can cause you to gain weight in many instances. Shame on him. I am so sorry you are going through all of this. Hopefully better days will be ahead for you.

It is always difficult when the husbands are out of town. Maybe once things settle down you can join him on one of the business trips. I agree with mttazzie 's last sentence (That made me smile). But I would be looking for another MD as well. I like what RCross say too que sera sera (always loved that song and saying and it has a deep meaning).
Focus on yourself and get yourself together. Husband must remember in sickness and in health.. that's what it is all about. Feel better soon.

Also Kimberley, when you said you were anemic is that the Hct? The normal is usually 3 times the hgb. Norms are 12hgb / 36hct. If your Hct is15 the doctor should be worried more about that and addressing that issue instead of your weight. Do you have any shortness of breath or palpitations?

This ass was an endocrinologist? Of all people he should realize that weight is more complicated than "just put your fork down." When he says you thyroid function is borderline, is that on the borderline of being too high or too low? If the latter, that can affect weight too. Wouldn't you love to watch this $#@&% even get out of bed with the problems you have with your back, etc.? Spend NO MORE time worrying about what this one said. He's a fool.

I don't know if it was HCT I think he said normal levels are 50 and mine was right at 15 but yes I have been short of breath and have palpitations. This is an endocrinologist that I started to see for my thyroid but he just took over all my meds and started tell ing all this stuff u need to do he wants me off the blood preasure med that my PCP wrote because its dangerous? I'm on verapamil because of palpitations so I don't know what to think I'm overwhelmed He did put me in teron forte for my dificiencie a but it gives me awful stomach pain guess I have to take it tho.

do you have anyone you an call to keep you company until your hubby gets back ? maybe a good friend just to come sit and visit and try to get your mind off of it for a few ...hope you feel better tomorrow

What a complete jackass! I just went through the whole "you are too fat" thing with a family member. Gee, as if
1) WE CAN'T SEE THAT FOR OURSELVES;
2) WOULD DO SOMETHING ABOUT IF WE COULD;
3) have weight loss as a priority with all the other sh&t going down in our lives.

You are an amazing, loving woman dealing with an incredible amount of pain, an incurable illness and other health issues. You are a freaking rockstar!!!

Belive that and tell your doc to shove it and find a new one. I am beyond done with this crappy attitude from those who don't live in our bodies.

You are beautiful, loved and a gift from the Creator. No one can take that away from you.

My doctor always mentions my weight, but explains, saying that the new health care laws require him to "counsel" patients who are over weight. Then he says , "Consider yourself counseled", then clicks something on the computer, saying, "Done". He knows that I know I need to lose weight and exercise. But it is hard. I do try to cook healthy, eat lots of fruits and veggies, but with little success. I appreciate my doctor not making a big deal of it. Your story makes me realize what a good guy he is. Your guy sounds like a Class A jerk!