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Rheumatoid arthritis is a chronic, inflammatory, multisystem, autoimmune disorder. It is a disabling and painful condition which can lead to substantial loss of mobility due to pain and joint destruction. The disease is also systemic in that it often also affects many extra-articular tissues throughout the body including the skin, blood vessels, heart, lungs, and...

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stenvikm
stenvikm
Hi friends thought I would write alittle about my Dr vist in Anchorage, she did show me the xrays of my feet and they looked pretty bad she started me on Humria right away. I was reading the post mini breakdown and i feel for ya. I meet a wonderful man 5 years ago , his wife left him of 26 years this all happened 2 years before I met him he is a great person and very concerned about me. The thing that is getting me in all the 5 years we have been together I never have been invited to his home or hang out with him and his kids which are young adults now, he told me last night he is taking 3 weeks off in july to go see his family. It took me for ever to get this info out of him, Im not invited so I guess I know what the outcome is going to be. I think he is living in the past, not sure if want to deal with this anymore on top of all the medical crap we deal with, so mini breakdown I was there with you crying too.I know this is way off the subject but thats whats on my mine, now I need to go to work and do a 12 hour night shift. Thanks and take care friends
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, that just plain sucks. I'd feel blue, too. That's got to feel strange to know he's essentially got two lives going. I hope everything resolves itself to the best possible end, and best wishes with the medical crap.

I'm curious about your xrays... Do your feet feel the way your xrays look? I don't think I've ever had xrays taken of my feet, but over the years, they're some of my biggest problem joints.
Caspiana
Caspiana
Hi. I am sorry to hear about your x-rays. It must be very hard having to live with the pain plus the stressful relationship you are in. I can only hope things turn out right for you. Take it easy. *hugs*
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi stenvikm, you need a big hug too right now! I'm sorry you have some big things on your plate, I hope the Humira works quickly for you so you can at least get some RA relief.

I also hope one day you get the chance to ask "Mr Jekyle and Hyde" if there is any problem with you meeting his family. Tell him how you feel, he may need you just to break the ice, or alternativly he has an obligation to you after 5 yrs, to be up front and honest. Will life still be the same after 10, 15 or 20yrs together?

Wishing you the best outcome and remember to look after No1 first - you. Take care, gentle hugs and have a good night shift.