So very sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult slump.

Hopefully, this is a flare that will just 'fly away' very soon.

Hope you feel better and back at that pool in a jiffy.

We all feel like that sometimes - not being able to do what we want to. I know I was really shocked when my orthopedic surgeon said I could only walk 5 minutes a day, increasing 5 minutes weekly. It meant I couldn't go to Costco or my favorite craft fair or much of anything else,

It will get better. Maybe you can't go today but maybe tomorrow!

Lynne

You aren't a failure
You are sick and probably tired
you need to rest and when you are able
and ready it will all happen don't
be too hard on yourself RA will do these types
of things to you.

I always call this "hitting the wall" because to me that is what it feels like. It doesn't matter how much I want to do something, how much I guard my energy, save myself for the activity, when it finally arrives, BAM, I hit the wall and can't go. Usually it means for me that a major flare it coming. Take care!

sorry to hear about your bad day. I know the feeling. It is so frustrating when you feel half way decent, and then have a set back. I hope you feel better soon. Erica

RA is well known for bringing exhausting to our lives. All auto-immune diseases do in fact... Very sorry that you are not feeling good, sweetie... Tomorrow will be a better day for you...
Are you talking any meds for your RA? Is it working for you?

Blessings and hugs,
Moldova

That's just your body telling you you've done too much today! Listen to what it is telling you, hon! I know what you mean about feeling like a failure - but you are not! We are often the ones who are the hardest on ourselves - trying to keep on with our pre-RA lifestyle with a post-RA body. The logistics of this just doesn't work!

Several years ago, after my MVA and fibro dx, I was having a really hard time learning to adapt to the fact that i could no longer carry on like I was "superwoman". I felt guilty, disappointed,stressed and angry at myself for not being able to do all the things I used to do without any problems. I just couldn't accept this new "me". It took a long time for me to be comfortable with the mountains of laundry, disorganized office and home, full dishwasher, and dirty bathrooms (don't get me wrong, I don't live in squalor but my house always looks lived in!) I was angry at myself and angry at the world for making me like this. The best thing that ever happened to me was seeing a psychologist for PTSD management - she taught me anger management and stress reduction techniques and also how to feel comfortable with the new "me". That was ten years ago, and I still feel that way.

It's good that you felt you could come here and tell us about how you are feeling. We all need to vent when we need to, and rejoice our little victories. Take it easy on yourself, you are not a failure, you are only human! Lots of gentle hugs ~ Kim

You are NOT a failure. You are managing your life with a chronic illness. And, it appears you are managing well: you made a choice to take care of yourself and not over exert by going to the pool anyway, you are exercising (obviously if you were heading to the pool), you are socializing (going to the pool, not staying in), and you asked for support in feeling this way (by coming here). All of these are positives - but, yes, it sucks when suddenly you just "can't"... I'm sorry that you are feeling down on yourself but know that people do understand, no one is judging you (other than yourself). Rest well.

I am so lucky you guys are so patient since all I seem to do here is complain. Thanks so much. I feel heaps better today and much less negative. *hugs*

I read your last post and saw that you feel better today. I'm glad. It's awful when you feel so tired and wan to do things your body won't let you do sometimes. I've learned to listen to my body and I don't push myself. Sometimes that makes me feel upset with myself or that I'm babying myself, but I remind myself that I am living with a chronic illness and I have to keep adjusting to the new "normal." Just celebrate the things you can do.

Sweetie, you are not a failure, not at all.
I think many of us been in same position as well, this is so natural when you are not just tired but exhausted to go somewhere and face people, talk or smile... All this seems like a chores which is not doable at that point.
And I also noticed if I push myself still to do what I feel I can't - I end up paying a big price with more exhausting, frustration, depression and sleeping for 16 hours...
So rest and enjoy your little time alone...
Hugs and blessings, Moldova