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Do you treat yourself as well as you treat your friends and family?
That simple question is the basis for a burgeoning new area of psychological research called self-compassion — how kindly people view themselves. People who find it easy to be supportive and understanding to others, it turns out, often score surprisingly low on self-compassion tests, berating themselves for perceived failures like being overweight or not exercising.
The research suggests that giving ourselves a break and accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health. People who score high on tests of self-compassion have less depression and anxiety, and tend to be happier and more optimistic. Preliminary data suggest that self-compassion can even influence how much we eat and may help some people lose weight.
This idea does seem at odds with the advice dispensed by many doctors and self-help books, which suggest that willpower and self-discipline are the keys to better health. But Kristin Neff, a pioneer in the field, says self-compassion is not to be confused with self-indulgence or lower standards.
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Do you treat yourself as well as you treat your friends and family?
That simple question is the basis for a burgeoning new area of psychological research called self-compassion — how kindly people view themselves. People who find it easy to be supportive and understanding to others, it turns out, often score surprisingly low on self-compassion tests, berating themselves for perceived failures like being overweight or not exercising.
The research suggests that giving ourselves a break and accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health. People who score high on tests of self-compassion have less depression and anxiety, and tend to be happier and more optimistic. Preliminary data suggest that self-compassion can even influence how much we eat and may help some people lose weight.
This idea does seem at odds with the advice dispensed by many doctors and self-help books, which suggest that willpower and self-discipline are the keys to better health. But Kristin Neff, a pioneer in the field, says self-compassion is not to be confused with self-indulgence or lower standards.
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When these go away i don't handle things by bingeing or cutting. Instead, i cut myself some slack and remind myself it's okay to be upset or it's okay to be hungry. I end up losing up to a stone in weight very quickly. The min i go back it bounces back on. Like recently following my worthlessness issue.
I struggle a lot with holding any kind of routine and food is eaten on impulse. When i had a lucid week free of chaos and confusion i was able to maintain my home and myself very well. I did struggle with punishing myself when the chaos and confusion returned..even more than before because my body had proved it was capable of doing things. That is the biggest thing i struggle with now because i rarely challenge the thoughts.
Thanks for posting this!
I need some serious work, my friends!!
Self-Judgment: 4.80
Common Humanity: 1.75
Isolation: 4.50
Mindfulness: 2.00
Over-Identification: 4.25
Overall score: 1.67
I have some work to do! There has been an improvement though. If I was taking this test a year ago all of my answers would have been in the extremes..I'm getting to a better place.
Self-Judgment: 4.00
Common Humanity: 2.00
Isolation: 4.50
Mindfulness: 2.00
Over-Identification: 4.25
Overall score: 1.84
Apparently on the "good" stuff like self-kindness, and the overall score, you want as close to 5 as possible but it's the opposite on the negative stuff.
I have no idea what over-identification means.
But I do know that I did lousy on this test. I FLUNKED! I am such a loser! I deserve to be flogged!! (OK, I'm not THAT hard on myself, but obviously there are some things I need to work on.)
Do you want me to delete some of your don't get its? Or were you making a point?
And that's ok if you don't get it , don't get it, don't get it....we get it:)