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Do you treat yourself as well as you treat your friends and family?
That simple question is the basis for a burgeoning new area of psychological research called self-compassion — how kindly people view themselves. People who find it easy to be supportive and understanding to others, it turns out, often score surprisingly low on self-compassion tests, berating themselves for perceived failures like being overweight or not exercising.
The research suggests that giving ourselves a break and accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health. People who score high on tests of self-compassion have less depression and anxiety, and tend to be happier and more optimistic. Preliminary data suggest that self-compassion can even influence how much we eat and may help some people lose weight.
This idea does seem at odds with the advice dispensed by many doctors and self-help books, which suggest that willpower and self-discipline are the keys to better health. But Kristin Neff, a pioneer in the field, says self-compassion is not to be confused with self-indulgence or lower standards.
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Do you treat yourself as well as you treat your friends and family?
That simple question is the basis for a burgeoning new area of psychological research called self-compassion — how kindly people view themselves. People who find it easy to be supportive and understanding to others, it turns out, often score surprisingly low on self-compassion tests, berating themselves for perceived failures like being overweight or not exercising.
The research suggests that giving ourselves a break and accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health. People who score high on tests of self-compassion have less depression and anxiety, and tend to be happier and more optimistic. Preliminary data suggest that self-compassion can even influence how much we eat and may help some people lose weight.
This idea does seem at odds with the advice dispensed by many doctors and self-help books, which suggest that willpower and self-discipline are the keys to better health. But Kristin Neff, a pioneer in the field, says self-compassion is not to be confused with self-indulgence or lower standards.
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But at the same time, I think it's important that I didn't destroy myself emotionally with negative self talk after eating the oreo's either.
Over my time of healing I think I've become more self compassionate. I never was self compassionate in the past. It's been quite the good change in my life.
Great article, thanks for posting it!
hahahahaha. Definitely a vacation for tastebuds. But also missing the whole protein, vegetable, fruit, etc intake I'm supposed to have.
I wonder just how many calories are in an entire package of oreo's.
I'll take the test and comment after
I believe it adds up to 1960 calories. 98 grams of fat. 21 g saturated fat 182 grams of sugar.
LOLOL. So I guess not just a vacation for my tastebuds.
I don't have bad days too often anymore. So I think once every 6 months or so makes me able to squeek by.
You'd have to do 10 hours on the stairmaster to burn that off ..yikes! Hell a bite of Snickers bar cost you 10 minutes! LOL
Mint is slimming apparently.
10 hours on the stairmaster? Now THAT'S what we call self-compassion!!!
Anyway, as per the topic:
I heard a quote on a TV show last night that said something along the lines of instead of comparing your accomplishments to others, try to compete against yourself and I found myself agreeing with that statement. I guess there are two schools of thought on self evaluation:
1. Yes you should strive to beat your previous goals - athletically, professionally, etc and that takes critical evaluation of what improvements you need to make.
2. You should be proud of what you already accomplished.
So I guess the real goal is how to balance the two to give yourself "self-care" but at the same time don't work below your potential.