My husband, dxd w/RCC 5/08, nephrectomy 5/08, mets to bone 7/09. We originally told family about the cancer diagnosis in 08, have updated family as to mets 8/09, and now, because I need to make sure I have FT employment, have discussed w/my employer. Just recently I have shared with a good friend/prayer partner about the diagnosis, as I could use some support as caregiver. Issue is that husband needs to keep job as long as possible (he's still physically able), so don't want to have the entire community of friends know right now. How do we decide who/when to tell people? How do you deal with people's reactions? It seems horrid to cause people to be distressed by the diagnosis/prognosis. Seems like you almost have to take care of them and their reaction.
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