Rebuilding Marriage After Infidelity Community Group
A community for those who have been through the heartbreak of infidelity and decided to stay with their partner and try to re-build the relationship.
If marriage is legally binding, and fidelity is a component of the contract, then why shouldn't infidelity be a crime?
I know that it is in other parts of the world.
Think about it, if I accidentally hit somebody with my car and injure or kill them, I can go to jail. And that isn't even intentional - just an accident.
When I think about the pain and suffering, divorce and its effects, lost wages, lost productivity and just general all around bad karma in the world that comes from cheating - it makes me wish it was illegal.
For the betrayed, do you think if it was illegal and your spouse had to risk real jail time that they still would have cheated?
I know that it is in other parts of the world.
Think about it, if I accidentally hit somebody with my car and injure or kill them, I can go to jail. And that isn't even intentional - just an accident.
When I think about the pain and suffering, divorce and its effects, lost wages, lost productivity and just general all around bad karma in the world that comes from cheating - it makes me wish it was illegal.
For the betrayed, do you think if it was illegal and your spouse had to risk real jail time that they still would have cheated?
And while we're dreaming- I would love to see the person who propositioned my husband prosecuted. She knew he was a married man. Accomplice to the crime? Aiding and abetting a crime? Coersion?
And MorganTX- you see and hear about politition's publicized affairs on the TV, and most of the time, it's swept into the corner and a year later, they come out smelling like a rose.
Seriously, though, it's a shame that morality can't be measured or judged, and a contract of marriage isn't binding anything much more than the legal union.
There is a difference between civil law and criminal law. Criminal law involves the kind of laws you can be prosecuted for and can go to jail for breaking. Like robbery, rape, etc. In those cases you are prosecuted by the State or the Federal Government acting on behalf of the people of the state or nation.
Civil laws are the laws that are written generally to allow one party to sue another for damages if the law is violated. These laws involve breach of contract, negligent car accidents, encroachment on another's property, and things like that. You cannot go to jail if you accidentally hit someone with your car and injure or kill them unless you were drunk, excessively speeding, or doing something else like that which involves the violation of a criminal law in connection with the accident.
In some states you can sue the OM/OW for alienation of affection. I wish you could in my state. I would have done it in a heartbeat. You can sue your spouse for breach of the marriage contract if they cheat on you. Its called suing for divorce. In many states if you stay with them you would, in essence, be suing yourself since any damages awarded would come from your spouse's assets or wages which are usually the property of the marriage anyway.
My H would probably have cheated anyway, but perhaps been a little more discreet. He didn't think he would get caught by me so why would he have thought the police would catch him? He was willing to engage in behavior that he thought at the time would result in the end of our marriage and life as he knew it if I found out. What's a little time in jail in comparison to that?