jes, you will so want your h to watch it with you.

There really is no clear cheater bashing in it... i don't think. It just shows the eventual misinterpretation of each others feelings and the gradual growing apart of people when they think only of themselves. Absolutely no sex but some mild sexual references.

We are not active members of our religion either and we didn't find it overly religious. The message is wonderful though.

We saw it at the theatre when it was still playing. Haven't done the love dare but norarose has me curious to see what we'd make of it...

rel8- I'm partway through the Love Dare, after watching the movie. My husband is not doing it simultaneously, although he says he wants to do it, too. I'm not making a big deal and pointing anything out as I go, simply writing a few thoughts into a journal, instead of using the space in the book. This is not a book that I think will be put aside and forgotten when finished.

If nothing else, the Love Dare is opening up my eyes to how easily we take our relationships for granted and gives you a big "in your face!" about how big a response we get for a simple, considerate action. It is really helping me focus on being a better person... the better relationship is an added perk. (I still maintain that I have always been a good wife and mother- but I'm recognizing the areas that I can work on to be even better.)

I would have have liked to do it along with my husband, but I wonder if it would change the perspective and progress. As it is, this introspective focus is also a plus for me.

I'm curious of other couple's responses to the Love Dare, and whether they did it alone or together. I know someday in the future, I'll go back to it- maybe not go through all 40 days step by step, but use it as a tool to continue to grow.

Yes triskell, I was thinking about my response from last night and I thought that even though things are going so well for us now there is no reason we shouldn't do it.

I really had that backward thinking that you would only do it if your relationship is in trouble... WRONG!

I'm going to give it a try soon.

Triskell, H and I do the love dare every morning before I leave for work. (H is retired) It's great in the sense that we sit down together and go through it. I read the chapter out loud and he reads the dare. It forces us to both think about the dare all day, which means we are constantly on each others minds. Then as soon as I get home from work we sit down again with our answers, lists, whatever. You are so right, it has enlightened me to so many things about our marriage, my feelings, etc. There have been days when we do the same dare over because as you can imagine I have days where I just can't think straight. He is very compliant.

It might take us 2 years to do 40 days...LOL..but that's okay because we are both on the same page at least..no pun intended.

I have to share this because it plays on my mind alot. One of the early dares asks you to share three things that annoy, irritate, bother you about your partner. Mine were easy, the fact that he cheated, the fact that he lied and the fact that he wouldn't confront the OW in front of me and stand up for us. His were that I spoil our grand-daughter, I put cheese and ranch dressing on his food before I taste it which offends him because he thinks he is such a great cook and he is, and third, I wear underwear to bed. WTF? But it opened my eyes to the way he thinks, just a little. And of course, these are all things that we never talked about in the past, things he never told me before hand that I could have possibly changed (except the wearing underwear to bed - he calls them asbestos because I have always said - what if there is a fire in the middle of the night!)

So yes, doing the love dare together is a real eye-opener. We have made a lot of changes in our relationship. While he may suffer from the loss of the OW, I miss my cheese and ranch dressing desperately!

LOL Norarose! The underwear thing cracks me up! How many of us have had it drilled into our heads- always wear nice/clean/etc., underwear in case of fire/accident/they're accidentally seen?

And, if I get to add more to MY list, tabasco sauce is not necessary on every dish I make! haha!

This reminds me of a story told to me by an older, retired couple. The wife kept pushing him to eat his favorite vegetable that she made often through their 40-50 years of marriage. He finally lost it. He told her- I hate green beans! I've always hated green beans! The only reason I ever ate green beans was because you always made them and I didn't want to make you feel bad! Food for thought (pun intended), little things can grow to giant proportions if we don't deal with them while they're small...

You can't use cheese or ranch dressing because your husband thinks it ruins his cooking? That's over the top IMO. That would be like me telling my H he couldn't use A1 sauce on his steaks because I don't care for it.

I do tell him to taste his food before he adds salt etc. but how he eats his food is his business. That sounds like a control issue to me. I say if you like ranch dressing or cheese, you should use them.

That was his point Loving, I never taste it before I start piling on the cheese and ranch dressing. I think it's habit more than anything that I do this. I should probably JUST be eating cheese and ranch dressing instead of the meal.

At least now we joke about it...I take one bite and then I say...MAN this is great but you know WHAT would make it even more AWESOME???

You can guess the rest...LOL

My grandmother actually told me not to wear panties to bed if you can believe it. She thought it affected your digestion and circulation, and would cause permanent marks in your skin where the elastic is. When my H found out I never wear panties to bed he was thrilled. I have always worried about the fire thing so I keep a pair in the trunk of my car.

AMI!!! I LOVE IT!!! What an awesome idea! The only bad thing abou that is...my concentration lately sucks...I'll find my own underwear in the car three months from now and DEMAND TO KNOW WHO THEY BELONG TO!....lol

ROTFL - I can relate. I was changing the sheets on the bed the other day and found a pair of panties down at the bottom. I immediately pulled them out and said "HEY, what the hell is this?" to my H. Then I realized they were mine and quietly said "nevermind".

Where can I get the book?

Are you asking about "The Love Dare"? Any Christian book store, or any regular book store will have it. Try Amazon if you don't want to run around looking for it. They have the book and you can also buy a bundle that includes 2 copies and 2 study guides and a DVD.

Thank you!