Rebuilding Marriage After Infidelity Community Group
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After all this, after staying with him after he broke my heart, after so much therapy and effort and everything ON MY PART. He decides that it's just too much work and he can't deal and he broke it and it can never be the same since he broke it, so he would rather just leave me and the kids and move on.
What did I do to deserve this kind of pain? Sometimes I have such pain in my body, physical pain, that it actually feels unbearable.
I love him. I never stopped loving him. I want to be with him.
Now it's so bad that he won't even look at me or talk to me. The being ignored feels like being punched.
I guess that first year of horrible pain and suffering wasn't enough for him - he thinks I deserve more pain.
Most of the time I think he would be happy if I just disappeared.
The A changed him. He is sullen, selfish, self-centered, depressed. He broke my heart but he also broke his own spirit. He is not the man he was before.
And now I just have to accept and accept and accept and grieve.
I know this isn't a rebuilding topic. I'm sorry. I am having such a hard time. I just need to feel like I am among friends.
Thank you all so much,
Morgan
What did I do to deserve this kind of pain? Sometimes I have such pain in my body, physical pain, that it actually feels unbearable.
I love him. I never stopped loving him. I want to be with him.
Now it's so bad that he won't even look at me or talk to me. The being ignored feels like being punched.
I guess that first year of horrible pain and suffering wasn't enough for him - he thinks I deserve more pain.
Most of the time I think he would be happy if I just disappeared.
The A changed him. He is sullen, selfish, self-centered, depressed. He broke my heart but he also broke his own spirit. He is not the man he was before.
And now I just have to accept and accept and accept and grieve.
I know this isn't a rebuilding topic. I'm sorry. I am having such a hard time. I just need to feel like I am among friends.
Thank you all so much,
Morgan
I'm sorry! We're all here for you! Your H is still being selfish, and theres nothing you can do about it. Take care of you!
I'm praying for you!
It is amazing to hear his tone of voice change. To hear the words change.
How he doesn't want to be with me, will never be happy with me, how he "did every thing he could and it was never enough".
Despite day after day of IGNORING me, literally, whole days when he wouldnt call me or email me or speak to me AT ALL.
Part of me wonders if he has just started up again with OW or maybe someone new and maybe thats why his tone of voice has changed so much.
Who knows?
Anyway, I really appreciate all the support and hugs from you guys. I will have to start telling my family today and I am DREADING it.
Hugs,
Morgan
I'm so sorry.
He needs to move out - we just can't afford it so I have been trying to figure out the cheapest way to do it.
I think I am about to get laid off at work (no productivity for the last THIRTEEN MONTHS) and having no money just makes my already bad situation worse.
Thanks for your support,
Morgan
He needs to move out - he can afford to move out because HE can sleep under a bridge for all WE care! Don't bother to 'figure out the cheapest way' for him. let HIM figure it out.
He will come running back to you. Just watch. As Candice Bergen told Meg Ryan in "The women'...there's no better way for a husband to realize how much he misses his wife than for a him to get a big dose of his mistress.
In Texas there is a thing called a Separate Maintenance Decree. Look into this.
I am so sorry Hon. I know you have worked so hard. But For your sanity you can't keep staying in the same house. He needs to go. I know money wise it probably isn't good. But whens it going to get better?
God I can only imagine your pain. But with him there treating you so badly you won't have a chance to get any relief at all.
The kids must be tortured too. My heart breaks for you. We are all here for you.
Keep writing as you need too. You can use "once upon a time' also. We will be there. Always :)
Love and Hugs
Lin
funny..... I never realized that when the love songs talked about a broken heart...that you could actually feel it...I never knew what those songs were talking about until this happened to me... and now...I realize the pain we feel in our hearts is real...
I know that you are feeling that heartbreak now...
Take care of yourself and your kids... get counseling...pray...
God has a plan for you...and that is ..for you to be happy...
I woke up in a panic last night and made the mistake of trying to hug him as I was crying - heartbroken over my sons reaction to us telling him about the divorce. H wouldnt even hug me. Told me he was going to sleep downstairs so he wouldnt have to hear me cry. Just cruel.