Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
Just random mindless surfing on the web brought me to this sight....or some slight divine intervention. I would have never ever dreamed in my most wildest dreams that ME...a celibate devoted Christian Mother and daughter and Registered Nurse...along with owning my own company... would ever have a life experience to post on a help forum for Rape victims. But, because of what happened I only want to help others cope and in return would hope that advice from others can help me...Here is my story.
I do not drink...wine at dinner...I do no drugs...never go to a bar...work 12 hours a day building our company along side my 25 year old daughter and 24 year old son.
I went out to eat with my husband...ordered a glass of wine...Pinot Grigio..and was then told by the owner of the restaurant...to go outside and move the vehicle as there was a group party coming...
Me...simple innocent me...jumped up...(as I have never been in trouble ever)...and moved it.
I came back in and my husband (who is 40 years older than me)...said.."are you mad"? I said..no..why?
The next thing I remember is waking up in my bed naked.....
I was sick to my stomach...and dizzy....
My husband....rushed me out of the house to work the next morning... (we work Saturdays)...but before we left I needed to use the bathroom....and when I defecated...there was liquid....now...my brain is all messed up and I am going...what the heck was that?
Worked...and went to church on Sunday....and was just feeling so bloated..and dismayed.
The following Thursday I went to the doctor as I had such a sore throat...she diagnosed it as Acute Pharyngitis.....why did I have that>>>>Oral Rape
Then my back side was just not as tone as it has been...and I then went to the ER and the confirmed I had decreased rectal tone..Anal Rape.....
Lastly...being celibate....I noticed that my Vagina was different....Vaginal Rape...
I then had to return to the Doctor as my lower back and pelvic region was so sore........because of the all of the parties...
Long story short....I was very much raped.....ruffied and raped.....
Who would do such a thing to me? A girl who had one partner?
A MOM? A daughter? A nurse?
Someone who doesn't even get into sex?
I am told it is a person that I had won a legal case against in the judicial system and that person was fired...
Revenge? Isn't Rape all about Power? Anger and Power?
A sore loser?
YEs...yes and another affirmative Yes...
But in my mind...maybe I am in denial...I WILL NOT own something or even make it part of my pure Nun history...unless I did something to contribute to it...
I simply went out to eat with my husband....
So......those of you going thru this too....don't own it...you did nothing wrong....
Forgive the worthless morsels......hand it back...don't; own it...that is what they want you to do...to be part of your history...
SInce then I have a hymenoplasty scheduled..and I have had to reschedule as the person who did this...tried to derail it.....so it is proof....rapist are people that want to affect your life...to be part of it...
Don't let them have that power....take it back....take your body back...
Ok....so there it is....my story....My God Bless each and everyone of you that also went thru this event.....And there is a closet in Hell for these people......and they can experience eternity what they did to others...
I do not drink...wine at dinner...I do no drugs...never go to a bar...work 12 hours a day building our company along side my 25 year old daughter and 24 year old son.
I went out to eat with my husband...ordered a glass of wine...Pinot Grigio..and was then told by the owner of the restaurant...to go outside and move the vehicle as there was a group party coming...
Me...simple innocent me...jumped up...(as I have never been in trouble ever)...and moved it.
I came back in and my husband (who is 40 years older than me)...said.."are you mad"? I said..no..why?
The next thing I remember is waking up in my bed naked.....
I was sick to my stomach...and dizzy....
My husband....rushed me out of the house to work the next morning... (we work Saturdays)...but before we left I needed to use the bathroom....and when I defecated...there was liquid....now...my brain is all messed up and I am going...what the heck was that?
Worked...and went to church on Sunday....and was just feeling so bloated..and dismayed.
The following Thursday I went to the doctor as I had such a sore throat...she diagnosed it as Acute Pharyngitis.....why did I have that>>>>Oral Rape
Then my back side was just not as tone as it has been...and I then went to the ER and the confirmed I had decreased rectal tone..Anal Rape.....
Lastly...being celibate....I noticed that my Vagina was different....Vaginal Rape...
I then had to return to the Doctor as my lower back and pelvic region was so sore........because of the all of the parties...
Long story short....I was very much raped.....ruffied and raped.....
Who would do such a thing to me? A girl who had one partner?
A MOM? A daughter? A nurse?
Someone who doesn't even get into sex?
I am told it is a person that I had won a legal case against in the judicial system and that person was fired...
Revenge? Isn't Rape all about Power? Anger and Power?
A sore loser?
YEs...yes and another affirmative Yes...
But in my mind...maybe I am in denial...I WILL NOT own something or even make it part of my pure Nun history...unless I did something to contribute to it...
I simply went out to eat with my husband....
So......those of you going thru this too....don't own it...you did nothing wrong....
Forgive the worthless morsels......hand it back...don't; own it...that is what they want you to do...to be part of your history...
SInce then I have a hymenoplasty scheduled..and I have had to reschedule as the person who did this...tried to derail it.....so it is proof....rapist are people that want to affect your life...to be part of it...
Don't let them have that power....take it back....take your body back...
Ok....so there it is....my story....My God Bless each and everyone of you that also went thru this event.....And there is a closet in Hell for these people......and they can experience eternity what they did to others...
Thank you for your kind words. It is hard not to feel consumed by what happened to us. I am feeling extremely overwhelmed right now. I just have to keep telling myself that it was not my fault.
I am so upset that that happened to you. You didn't deserve any of that. Anyone can get raped. Male, female, child, employed, unemployed, religious or not, has sex or not, those things are not relevant to rape because victims don't choose to be raped. Rapists just rape them.
And I agree with lovealice. Anyone can rape anyone, anytime. My friend of 13 years drugged and raped me.
I know this sounds absurd....even a bit off the wall...but I know with all of my might and knowing who did this....but because of WHO he is he will probably never get caught by the judicial system...but at least his name is called out in his own choice of employment...the judicial system...and I guess I would hope that just knowing that is derogatory enough....I sure would hope they don't pride themselves in it...Pigs.
THis procedure is very rare where I live so I had to take a flight to get it done.
It was performed by an woman doctor from India and I just want to say.
When I returned to my home..I felt complete....I felt that I had taken my power back and reversed the rape....
It healed amazing and it is as though I have never even had sex ever.
I suggest this for anyone that has gone thru this crime....it has amazing psychological healing powers....
As small as that hymen is....it has great power.
God Bless and Merry Christmas
I know this sound insensitive but do not become the person that hurt you. Meaning. Be the woman you have always been and do not give their action energy. Energy only gives growth. Without energy evil will die.
Just know your strong abd if great spirit and will get thru this. Probably come out on top. Just be strong and pray.
Be strong ladies and of great courage. We got this.