Rape Support Group

If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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Telling My Parents - TW

sbl2464
sbl2464

Hi there, new to this forum so I'm not quite sure what to expect. Here's my story and I'm open to hearing yours or talking with whoever wants to talk.


I was raped when I was 15 by a friend's older brother. I was a virgin. I never reported it because I thought I would get in trouble with my parents (we were drinking at this friends house) or my friends would be mad at me for telling. 


Fast forward to three years later, I was attending my dream school. I was raped again at 18 by two male friends at my university. I didn't report it then too because I felt like no one would believe me, I had been out drinking for rush week with sororities and fraternities. I still feel like it was my fault for being out drinking, and landing myself in the same situation. I became depressed and failed out of school and had to move back to my hometown.


I never told my parents what happened, until this past July. I'm 24 now and have just started counseling/ treatment for depression, anxiety, and PTSD. Although treatment has helped, I still feel like I need to talk to people with similar experiences.


Thanks for reading

lovingmyselfagain
lovingmyselfagain
Thank you for sharing your story! I am sorry to hear what you went through it must be very difficult to deal with. I was raped last year by someone I had known and I just opened up about it last week. You will be surprised how many people actually will support you through this. I was afraid my family would not support me but they have been there every step of the way. You are doing the right thing and I wish you nothing but peace, happiness and healing my love. you did NOT deserve this and it was NOT your fault. NO matter what you were doing. Do not take on the responsibility of someone else's bad decision.
sbl2464
sbl2464
I really need to remind myself of that, and even though I tell myself that I feel like I’m almost lying to myself? My mom has been very supportive and has encouraged me to seek out these online support groups and has been amazing through it all. My dad on the other hand, I feel like it’s driven a wedge between us. We barely talk and I feel like he’s ashamed of me or like he doesn’t want to talk to me, and I’m afraid to bring it up with him. The two times I have spoken with him about my mental health he’s literally just told me to get over it or well you just need to learn to cope. It’s frustrating.