Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
I have had an amazing handle on what happened to me so many years ago until all of this has been in the news. I mean it creeps up on me sometimes, but I usually search the guy and check to make sure he is still incarcerated for his other charges since mine were dismissed. Ignored. Acted as if they were made up, etc. I could go on and on, but there's nothing I can do about that. How can someone treat another person like that and NEVER feel remorseful? NEVER think about someone but yourself. 18 years Later and I am still wondering what you did to me. She will be wondering what he did to her! You get victimized by them then again by the system, then again by the minds and mouths of the ignorance of the world, then yet again by news like a three month sentence for the "star" athlete! It makes me sick. My heart doesn't know whether to hurt or harden. My emotions are so confused over this. I don't want my husband to touch me. He doesn't understand why. I can't explain it in words. What was done to me is woven into ever fiber of my being. How can I explain that someone else is making me hurt all over again. Can I crawl in a hole now? If I talk to others I am afraid they will look at me weird or treat me differently. Most people I know now have no clue.
If a person has never been sexually abused or assaulted, they'll never be able to empathize with those who have, and it is hard to listen to for most people.
I don't think they'd think you're weird. It's just such a taboo and uncomfortable subject. As much as it happens, it's not something that's talked about openly enough for a lot of reasons. One, because people need to be held accountable and most abusers never are. It also hits close to home because, so often, that's where most abuse comes from.
Law enforcement, and laws in general, aren't set up to really step up and try to put a stop to all the abuse. It's easier to just look away and go after the easier offenses.
I read something a while back where thousands of rape kits were still sitting in evidence lockers in a number of states across America and hadn't been tested yet. How horrible. These people were brave enough to go and be subjected to that and now their attackers are most likely still free because law enforcement won't even look at the evidence. It's atrocious.
I'm really sorry this has upset you so. I hope you can speak to someone, hopefully your husband. He needs to understand before he begins to think it's something to do with him. I hope you two have a good relationship. Communication is key.
Hugs