that is huge of you to be raising the child. was it date rape?

i used to work in criminal court and generally a rapist is not given visitation of any sort. did you file rape charges at the time?

i know someone who's mother was raped and he was the result. she had a very unique view. the child was 100 percent her own. no father at all in her eyes. he's a great guy and she loves him to death. she also is not in touch with the father's of his younger brothers. they are HER sons and no one else's.

does a person get over rape? i don't know anyone who HASN'T been raped to be honest with you. some of it is date rape, some of it is at a club and go to a car to get stoned and it happens and the person is too stoned to do anything...some of it is worse, the person is a teenager and held captive or there is incest and all that. i know one who was jogging and attacked...i know guys who have been raped as well. i have a step-brother who is bi and went after every single boyfriend of mine that he met back 30 years ago. he showed up again in 2008 and attempted the same thing at my house here. i said to him, you are 41 years old are you going to say you are young and don't know what you are doing? what is your defense now. i hate that guy. out of touch with him for 25 years at that time and he shows up and does that, right away.

i think rapists are bullies. and bully in that way. people who are victims of rape should also joint the bullying group. you move on. you hope the rapist isn't also a stalker. they should make all crimes by force a death penalty and just get rid of them all. i also think that all rapists are also murderers and thieves. they did a study on that and they said that people guilty of one of those kinds of crime are also guilty of the other two its just a matter of time. stealing is the root of all other crime, a total disregard for what belongs to another, including their life and their organs. they are also narcissists, they feel entitled to what belongs to others.

I can definately relate with you hun, i was raped and he got me pregnant, i gave birth last july and i just couldnt keep the baby knowing how it was concieved, it was adopted out in a closed adoption to a very good family im told. i dont know that we ever get over being raped i think we just learn to live and eeal with it

I was in a relationship with him and one night, he got sleeping meds out, forced them down mouth. All he said I would have great sleep. So while asleep he took it upon him to have sex, and when i woke up during it, he told me I was dreaming but he was pinning me down.
After that it was the end and ending pregnant wasn't apart of the plan.
I reported it and asked him to do years counsulling so he wouldn't lose job. During this time he went to a lawyer and they asked for visit, which was delayed for a year but now he has her a day a week. I hate it, as i have to deal with him for many years to come.
Yesterday after saying that I should be over it by now etc etc and that if I wasn't over it there's something wrong with me.
I can't sleep cause of all this. We were in court for a good year with it. He turns up when it suits him, I have sport in morning etc.
Its being very hard, knowing its not my daughters fault and not mine, it his, but the hurt and the trust is gone.
After what he said yesterday I told him to leave which he didn't at first, so started calling police I hate any yelling and it doesn't belong in my house, so he left, came back today and asked if sunday was okay but not a sorry, nothng, just very hurt that a person has this happen and we have to forgot about it in day.

I can relate to this but I had an abortion as I could not cope with what happened. I don't think we will ever get over it but we just have to learn how to live with it which I find really hard cos i want to be the person I was before the rape. I relation to the abortion a day has not gone by in nearly 7 years that I do not think about this. Hope this helps take care.

Hi how are you....my name is Angel and I also have a child from rapist...she's 12 now....feel free to read my profile any time you wish....having a child from your rapist is not brave....its just the mother instinct within you...within us...its not about the rapist...its about the child!!! Children are a blessing regardless of whom the bio farther maybe.....any male can make a baby...but it takes a real man to raise his child....any woman can have a baby...but it takes a real woman to raise that child!!!! You will never forget wht happen to you...when you say get over it...wht do you mean....sweetie its a part of you....you just have to look deep within yourself to realize that you are still beautiful..and yet you are strong yet sinstive and things will pop up from time to time....that might scare you...or piss you off...however you have to find a way to deal with it...in your own way and your on time!!! And you are still alive !!!! So live your life one day at a time....love you much!!!!

Hi how are you....my name is Angel and I also have a child from rapist...she's 12 now....feel free to read my profile any time you wish....having a child from your rapist is not brave....its just the mother instinct within you...within us...its not about the rapist...its about the child!!! Children are a blessing regardless of whom the bio farther maybe.....any male can make a baby...but it takes a real man to raise his child....any woman can have a baby...but it takes a real woman to raise that child!!!! You will never forget wht happen to you...when you say get over it...wht do you mean....sweetie its a part of you....you just have to look deep within yourself to realize that you are still beautiful..and yet you are strong yet sinstive and things will pop up from time to time....that might scare you...or piss you off...however you have to find a way to deal with it...in your own way and your on time!!! And you are still alive !!!! So live your life one day at a time....love you much!!!!

Hi how are you....my name is Angel and I also have a child from rapist...she's 12 now....feel free to read my profile any time you wish....having a child from your rapist is not brave....its just the mother instinct within you...within us...its not about the rapist...its about the child!!! Children are a blessing regardless of whom the bio farther maybe.....any male can make a baby...but it takes a real man to raise his child....any woman can have a baby...but it takes a real woman to raise that child!!!! You will never forget wht happen to you...when you say get over it...wht do you mean....sweetie its a part of you....you just have to look deep within yourself to realize that you are still beautiful..and yet you are strong yet sinstive and things will pop up from time to time....that might scare you...or piss you off...however you have to find a way to deal with it...in your own way and your on time!!! And you are still alive !!!! So live your life one day at a time....love you much!!!!