i'm so sorry that that happened to you.....when i was first diagnosed with depression my parents refused to believe it and told me that i didn't need medication and that i didn't need to see a counselor....they've come around and they fought some of my diagnoses, like my borderline persnoality disorder and my ED but they understand now and they get it.....when people-other family members-told me that i don't need meds. or counseling i just shove that comment from my mind....and when i was raped very few people understood what i was going through....no one has told me to "get over" it....but my parents didn't believe me, so that kind of destroyed me....but yeah.....i know how you feel....if you wanna talk, i'm here

It sounds like you have a clear idea about what you need, and that's good. People who care about you want to be over it because they want you to feel OK again. It's not that they are trying to be mean - they just don't understand. You can say things to them to try to make them understand, but honestly, there's no guarantee that it will work. You just have to stand strong and make sure you get what you need, like counseling and medication. It will save you a lot of aggravation in the long run, because if you don't take the time and care you need, you can turn toward really negative things in order to try to make yourself feel better. I wish I had done what you are doing right now, taking care of yourself after it happened. Instead I used alcohol, drugs, and negative relationships to drown the pain and distract myself. You are on the right track, no matter what your family and friends are saying. You have good instincts about this - honor them.
After a while you realize that most people you know aren't going to get it, and that it's like trying to get blood out of a turnip - it's not gonna happen, and it might hurt your feelings to try, because of their responses. Unfair as it is, it might also hurt their feelings because it's like you're telling them that they can't be a good enough friend to you. On the Resurrection After Rape website there are free downloads you can use to give some of the people in your life, if you think that might help. One is "Things Not to Say to a Survivor". There is a 17 page Parent's Guide to Helping a Daughter that Has Been Raped." You can highlight things that are relevant, like parts that say not to stop counseling sessions or medications. It's tiresome having to train the people in your life, and after 40+ years, I've found that it works better for me to either journal or talk to a trusted friend in a limited way, without freaking her out with details, if something related to the rapes comes up and I want to talk about it. I'm new to this group, but coming here really helps because I know the people here understand. I read people's posts, and feel for them, because I understand too, and want to help.
I still have flashbacks and respond to triggers after more than 40 years, because rape is a kind of trauma. You wouldn't expect someone who'd gone through a serious car crash to forget about i, or to stop wearing a cast on their broken leg before it's healed. You don't just forget about rape. You don't just get over it. It's not like a cold - it's more like a chronic condition that you learn to cope with better and better over time. I've learned how to manage my symptoms, I've learned the difference between friends and acquaintances, I've learned to share my history on a need-to-know basis only. I've learned to speak out when I feel it necessary, but keep my own counsel at other times, to protect myself.
Continue taking care of yourself, and try not to feel too pressured about what your friends and family want. They just don't understand. You know what you are feeling and what you need. You're not alone. I wish you the very best, and I know all these other people here do, too.

i wish u guys the best of luck with everything. im trying not to worry about what they think about the counselor and medicine. its just tough especially when they are the ones i live with and that take me to talk to counselor or the doctor. when my other friends or family that i dont live with and dont text me they live a half an hour or more away from me so i barely ever get to talk to them and when i do its never long enough time with them. or all the drama just follows me over there

i dont want to seem like im complaining alot but no matter where i go or what i do im always stressed out and theres always drama and thoughts and just i dont really even know what to say so if this or my last comment makes no since im sorry