Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
While I have my own syndicated blog, I like to write for other blogs on occasion as well. My latest piece of work is at the Good Men Project:
Ive Got the T-Shirt and the Trauma Response to Go With It
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/ive-got-the-t-shirt-and-the-trauma-response-to-go-with-it/
Excerpt:
As a vocal male survivor, when Im not talking about sexual violence in writing or before audiences, Im reading about it in many contexts and sources. A great deal of what I see on a daily basis is directed at men with the assumption that we know nothing about sexual violence or have no experiences that parallel those of female survivors.
Those making such arguments are often NOT sexual violence survivors themselves. Encountering such memes can be quite painful when you are a rape survivor yourself. The problem is not that female survivors receive the majority of the attention when sexual violence is discussed. The problem is that when sexual violence is discussed with regard to male survivors, there is often resistance, condescension, and outright mockery by people who quite often have not experienced such violence themselves. For those who have lived through abuse at the hands of women, that can be doubly wounding.
Ive lived through sexual violence. I have my own story and my own experiences. I have my own triggers and my own issues. I dont need to be educated. I dont need to be taught what to do or not do. I dont need any proven statistical bias to legitimize my life or my experiences. I lived it.
Ive Got the T-Shirt and the Trauma Response to Go With It
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/ive-got-the-t-shirt-and-the-trauma-response-to-go-with-it/
Excerpt:
As a vocal male survivor, when Im not talking about sexual violence in writing or before audiences, Im reading about it in many contexts and sources. A great deal of what I see on a daily basis is directed at men with the assumption that we know nothing about sexual violence or have no experiences that parallel those of female survivors.
Those making such arguments are often NOT sexual violence survivors themselves. Encountering such memes can be quite painful when you are a rape survivor yourself. The problem is not that female survivors receive the majority of the attention when sexual violence is discussed. The problem is that when sexual violence is discussed with regard to male survivors, there is often resistance, condescension, and outright mockery by people who quite often have not experienced such violence themselves. For those who have lived through abuse at the hands of women, that can be doubly wounding.
Ive lived through sexual violence. I have my own story and my own experiences. I have my own triggers and my own issues. I dont need to be educated. I dont need to be taught what to do or not do. I dont need any proven statistical bias to legitimize my life or my experiences. I lived it.
i am a female survivor, and i have also experienced resistance, condensation and mocking - among other "fun" things. unfortunately, i hear more out in society about female survivors and not male.
i never understood that. when i started being really honest with myself about things that happened to me, i found that a high majority of my male friends had experienced molestation/rape. so since i was surrounded by it in my world it was hard for me to understand why it wasnt brought up in the general population. i still think its not a favorable topic male or female - but i do feel again that the female view point is discussed more.
i have been raped/molested by mostly men - one woman - a doctor - molested me. that is the only experience i have. and one of the hardest ones for me to admit and come to terms with.
i am sorry for what you have been thru, what we have all been thru. best of luck to you.
http://andrewsullivan.thedailybeast.com/2012/01/when-women-rape-men.html