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This may be a little hard to read but I need to get this off my chest.
Sometimes I feel as if I ruined this mans life..
I was 16 and SO SO SO stupid. I had no friends, my dad was never around and I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship. I had moved 4 times in 3 years and I was so lonely/..
Anyways my parents friend contacted me on FB telling me how beautiful I was and how he thought I was the most amazing person ever..AND I KNEW it was WRONG but it felt so nice to hear someone tell me that Im pretty... he flirted with me and I flirted back... ( he was in his 40's)
Then he asked me to come over to his house so we could hook up... I didnt exactly want to but I wanted someone to show intrest in me..So I went over...When we started...I started panicking and Crying..but he didnt stop..In fact he told me that if I didnt stop crying he couldnt let me go home....
I was shaking so badly and I wanted to go home but I was so scared...When it was over he dropped me off on the side of the road...
He then went on to keep contacting me even though I said i was uncomfortable...
Im not even sure if..It was rape? I didnt want to once I got there but I knew he wanted to when I went over...The worst part is I feel like I ruined HIS life.
Sometimes I feel as if I ruined this mans life..
I was 16 and SO SO SO stupid. I had no friends, my dad was never around and I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship. I had moved 4 times in 3 years and I was so lonely/..
Anyways my parents friend contacted me on FB telling me how beautiful I was and how he thought I was the most amazing person ever..AND I KNEW it was WRONG but it felt so nice to hear someone tell me that Im pretty... he flirted with me and I flirted back... ( he was in his 40's)
Then he asked me to come over to his house so we could hook up... I didnt exactly want to but I wanted someone to show intrest in me..So I went over...When we started...I started panicking and Crying..but he didnt stop..In fact he told me that if I didnt stop crying he couldnt let me go home....
I was shaking so badly and I wanted to go home but I was so scared...When it was over he dropped me off on the side of the road...
He then went on to keep contacting me even though I said i was uncomfortable...
Im not even sure if..It was rape? I didnt want to once I got there but I knew he wanted to when I went over...The worst part is I feel like I ruined HIS life.
* He was your parent's friend, so he KNEW
- your dad was never around (so you lacked a strong father figure)
- you had moved 4 times in 3 years (so would be lonely)
- (and maybe) you had just got out of an abusive relationship (so would be vulnerable)
* He was your parent's friend, so he was in a position of authority / trust in your life
* He was in his 40's - WAY to old to have a healthy relationship with a (vulnerable) 16 y/o
* He contacted you - not the other way around
* He groomed you - knowing you'd respond to the flattery
* He asked you into his lair - you didn't initiate it
* He made the initial advance to you
* He continued when you said "no", panicking and crying
* He threatened you
* He dumped you by the roadside
* He continued to contact you, despite you telling him you were uncomfortable
* He raped you
Just which of these was your fault?
On the other hand:
* You were 16, possibly infatuated, certainly groomed, and vulnerable.
* You responded to his flattery, as most young girls would - he was good at it.
* You went round to his house. You had every right to go there.
* You said "no", and quite clearly.
You did nothing wrong.
I strongly suspect you were not the first young girl he'd groomed like that. But, even if you were, it makes no difference. All the fault was his. He is responsible for all the consequences.