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Hi, I'm new on here but I hope somebody can help, or maybe tell me how they dealt with this if it happened to them.
I was raped two years ago by my best friends boyfriend. I was invited to hers one night and woke up with her boyfriend on top of me :( I honestly think that she wanted him to sleep with me as she had cheated on him and just wanted him to do something wrong so he wouldn't guilt trip her any more.
The police believed me and it went to trial but he ended up being found not guilty which sometimes makes me wish I never even bothered. I wish I kept my mouth shut and carried on as normal as all this has resulted in is people staring at me when I go out.
People I thought were friends totally blank me. I have been told that when he was found not guilty he went straight on facebook gloating about it. He didn't say my name as he would have got in trouble but apparently there were a lot of people telling him to name and shame.
Before all of this happened they had an awful relationship and split up frequently. They had a little boy and the night this happened to me they argued in front of me because he thought that he wasn't the father as he looks nothing like him.
He took drugs and stole money from her. He took his son's birthday money once to go and buy alcohol. She also cheated on him a lot. She even said that once he got angry and said he finds it sickening seeing the man she slept with all of the time and how would she like it if he slept with me.
Since he was found not guilty all of this has somehow wiped the slate clean between them. I've been told that they just had another baby and they are engaged. It's like I was used by them so they could start again.
I don't want to even walk to my local shops as I worry about people knowing all about this and listening to their side of the story. I know it's something I just have to deal with but I'm finding it hard. I felt sorry for her before all of this happened and now they seem to be living more normally than they did before! I have no idea how this has made their life better and it's making me have a nervous breakdown if I'm honest.
I don't want to go on Facebook telling everybody my side of the story, I don't want to try and go out of my way to tell people what happened but I don't know what to do :( I feel really alone. I don't get how people aren't the slightest bit concerned that the police believed me so much that it actually went to trial.