Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
My therapist brought to my attention that i havent felt anger toward the men who raped me from 9-17. I feel anger towards myself. I put the blame on myself for so long I dont know how else to feel. I just recently started tofeel things as I have numb for yrs. How do I become angry towards someone i dont blame??
drbeaker
Who do you blame?
faithtofly
Myself
valgal18
i'm so sorry that that happened to you......i think your therapist is wrong saying that you have to feel anger towards them......i don't feel angry at the men who raped me...i feel angry at God, if there even IS a God....that's just how i feel.....we are enititled to our feelings and allowed to feel how we feel....maybe in a few uears you'll feel anger towards them....maybe you never will......there's no "right way" to feel....hope this helped....if you wanna talk fee lfree to mesage me
deleted_user
Hi, I think it is quite normal to turn the blame inwards to the self. ......when I was going through therapy I too questioned why I was as angry at myself. I hated myself for the rape having taken place. It has taken ages for me to come to see that although most rape victims , or as I say survivors, blame themselves that this blame is misplaced. I understand how you are feeling.....I think this is normal but you are almost definitely not to blame honey.....I do not feel anger at my rapist either....but he was a family member and for a long time I felt I had to protect Him. Please don't hate yourself or think it is your fault....Rape is Rape....it means the offender overpowered you and regardless of the situation as long as you said no when it mattered the he should have respected that. Xxx
deleted_user
I am also angry at myself and not at the guy who raped me. I don't think that you should be told who to be angry at or what to feel. Everyone is affected differently. If you need to talk feel free to message me anytime.
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