Rape Support Group
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Cour2520
So Im in high school , and Ive lived across from my neighbour since I was very young he is a year younger and has a sister who is best friends with my sister who is two years older than me and one day at 1am my sister asked if I wanted to go to their house to drink a little and hang out so my sister and his sister kept leaving me alone with him and I felt pretty awkward, and I didnt drink that much but he did and they have a hot tub and I wanted to go in it but my sister kept ditching so I ended up going in with him and he started to touch me and I kept saying no stop but he just kept doing it, and he tried to finger me but I kept pushing him away but he kept doing it so I just bared it, then he tried to get me to touch him and I kept saying no but he kept grabbing my hand and my resistance was weakening because I was tired and I kept saying I wanted to go home but I mistakenly said I would sleep over before because my sister was so he kept saying no stay and I attempted many times to get out but he kept grabbing my arm and begging me to stay but I couldnt get away so finally we got inside and I said I was going to go home and tell my sister who was downstairs but when I went to go down he grabbed me and was like no stay and wouldnt let me down so he took me to the couch and kept trying to touch my chest and I kept pushing him off but Im pretty weak, and he kept holding my wrist stopping me from leaving and was begging me to stay and I forgot to add he pulled me on him in the hot tub and tried having sex but it wouldnt work and I was resisting and then on the couch hes like we should try again and I said no I dont want to I want to go home but he kept touching me and I was become very tired and could hardly stop him and pry my wrist out of his so I finally gave in because I knew he wouldnt let me leave and I said I dont want to do it in the living room, so we went upstairs and I just laid there and let him do what he wanted but he couldnt get hard so it wasnt working and he wanted me to do stuff I didnt want to and I kept saying he was hurting me but he just kept going and I kept saying I wanted to go home but I finally got enough strength to just get up and leave and he let me but hugged me and said he was sorry but I just glared at him and walked out but I feel like it was my fault still because I let it happen even when I didnt want to, and I helped him but only cause it was hurting me so what do you think? Would this be considered rape?
Msn discussion after: Me:
we had sex... u dont remember?
Him:
nooo, i dont remember
i waas really fucked i guess
cuz i felt like shit til last night lol
Me:
well rememver casue thats not good..
Him:
whaatt?
Me:
remeber
Him:
remember..
Me:
cause thats a pree big deal ...
Him:
yea but i have noo idea what happened thoo
Me:
i just told u
Him:
yea but i dont remember the night
Me:
ok well thats what happpened
Him:
well im gonna say sorry for not remembering..
Me:
u will rmeber sooner or laer
later
Him:
not always
Me:
we had sex so now u knoww
Him:
igghtt, justt dont say i guess cuz i dont remember
Me:
just dont say?
Him:
dont go around tellin ppl
Me:
rnt u a virgin?
Him:
yeaa, your not?
Me:
well not anymoree
Him:
haha, justt say you are lol, cuz i wont tell anyone cuz i didnt know i even couuld lol
Me:
even could what/.
Him:
i was fcked lol
Me:
oh well ok..
Him:
just dont tell ppl, cuz if i hear bout it i didnt know we did then its gonna be weirdd
Me:
yeah well its already pree wierd fore me...
Him:
ye for sure, sorry
shouldnnt have let me do itt lol
Me:
uhh yeah i tried...
Him:
hmm..
ok just try and do what you cann and forget lol
Me:
oh yeah thats possible..
Him:
it can be, but i dont wanna keep goin on boutt it
im going to bed, late nightt lastnight, peacee
Me:
bye
Msn discussion after: Me:
we had sex... u dont remember?
Him:
nooo, i dont remember
i waas really fucked i guess
cuz i felt like shit til last night lol
Me:
well rememver casue thats not good..
Him:
whaatt?
Me:
remeber
Him:
remember..
Me:
cause thats a pree big deal ...
Him:
yea but i have noo idea what happened thoo
Me:
i just told u
Him:
yea but i dont remember the night
Me:
ok well thats what happpened
Him:
well im gonna say sorry for not remembering..
Me:
u will rmeber sooner or laer
later
Him:
not always
Me:
we had sex so now u knoww
Him:
igghtt, justt dont say i guess cuz i dont remember
Me:
just dont say?
Him:
dont go around tellin ppl
Me:
rnt u a virgin?
Him:
yeaa, your not?
Me:
well not anymoree
Him:
haha, justt say you are lol, cuz i wont tell anyone cuz i didnt know i even couuld lol
Me:
even could what/.
Him:
i was fcked lol
Me:
oh well ok..
Him:
just dont tell ppl, cuz if i hear bout it i didnt know we did then its gonna be weirdd
Me:
yeah well its already pree wierd fore me...
Him:
ye for sure, sorry
shouldnnt have let me do itt lol
Me:
uhh yeah i tried...
Him:
hmm..
ok just try and do what you cann and forget lol
Me:
oh yeah thats possible..
Him:
it can be, but i dont wanna keep goin on boutt it
im going to bed, late nightt lastnight, peacee
Me:
bye
valgal18
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you clearly said no and he didn't respect you or your decision......i think it IS rape......you clearly said no and he still went along did what he did......you did not let anything happen to you.......like i said, you clearly said no and he didn't stop.....most of the time rapists-even if they're drunk-will do whatever they can to make their victims comply with what they want.......i often blame myself as do other victims, but we need ot know that it is NOT our fault and that's hard ot accept.......i know that forgetting about it sounds really good but i know from expereince it does more harm/damage than good.......i would highly recommend talking to your school counselor or finding someone to talk to......if you ever need to talk, i'm here for you
Cour2520
Thank you so much, great advice.
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