I'm here for support if you ever need an ear. You can pm me any time you'd like.

I'm sorry this happened to your daughter. Actually, I'm sorry this happened to both of your daughters. I don't know if your older daughter is aware of the situation, but it should send up a red flag to her as well, because even if what he said was true, that he believed she was her sister, that means he was willing to take advantage of her when she was passed out and unable to consent. Nothing about this is okay, and I hope your older daughter will get this man out of her life as soon as possible.

He is a rapist.

As for your younger daughter, as someone who has been in her shoes, I'm able to sympathize with her. I obviously understand why you're upset and want to take action immediately, and as she is a minor, you may have the power to do that. However... Forcing her to talk when she's not ready to, or to relive the incident for the cops or a doctor might cause an adverse reaction where she freezes up and denies it, or chooses not to come forward out of fear. It's a delicate situation that must be handled with sensitivity and finesse.

She feels comfortable enough to talk with your girlfriend about it, which is a good sign. At least she's talking to someone. I think you're doing the right thing at the moment by encouraging your girlfriend to help her find the courage to come forward and talk about it. Just keep reiterating that she's done nothing wrong and should never feel guilty or ashamed. It's all the fault of the assailant; not her.

Maybe you could look into the resources available to you, as a parent, and see what legal action you can take in the place you live. But do remember that your daughter is probably hurting and confused right now and she needs time and care. like I said, I understand why your immediate reaction is to make sure he doesn't get away with this.

I hope everything works out for you and that your daughters will be okay.

I am so sorry for what you and your daughters have experienced. I would encourage you to speak with a counselor. There are many resources available to family members. Have you tried RAINN? NOVA, the Sexual Assault Hotline, and Stop It Now may also be some good resources for you, but I am not aware of any that are specifically for rape survivors.
I am so glad that your daughter feels comfortable sharing with your girlfriend. I would encourage you to speak with a licensed counselor and not pressure your daughter to tell you. I was horrified and scared to tell my parents of my experience, but I had a good friend that encouraged me to talk to them. I told them very little initially, but as we spent more time together I would disclose a little more of what happened.
It really helped to know that my parents still loved me. The shame is overwhelming and the time that we spent together was really important.
Hope that things work out for you and your daughters.

I wish to thank the both of you for your advice and kind words. Here is my problem. My daughter is 16 now 2 months ago she was 15 years old and the piece of shit was 22. And sadly my oldest daughter has no clue he raped my daughter because she was passed out apparently. I've always been a supportive caring dad. Im the dad who shows up at everything my kids do. It's been almost a week since I've found out about this incident. I am still being the encouraging dad I've always been. Except Im not suppsed to know.. My hands shake constantly now. I stay awake at night because I can't sleep. Im trying to take care of myself for me and my family. It's ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE AT TIMES. I know this is about my daughter I just don't know how to not feel this way. I wouldn't feel this overwhelmed if my daughter would just say something to me. Im standing with my hands behind my back and I cant stand it.. For a loving caring dad to just sit there everyday knowing your daughter waa raped by someone I considered family is inexcusable. I just want everyday to tell my daughter that its going to be ok, and that she is loved and her daddy is going to make this better.. I cry when Im alone because the rage and pain is sometimes to much. I pray and ask GOD for guidance and patience . I don't have anyone close I can talk to about this. Her mother who isnt in the picture would side with my oldest daughter and probably say my younger daughter was making it up.. I dont know how to tell my daughter that I know about this. She was very specific about not telling me.. So Im confused on how to bring this up to my daughter without causing more issues or making it worse.

Please do not stop supporting your daughters. A daughter letting her dad view her after a rape changes everything. A child does not need to be viewed as damaged by her father. Women always want to be pure in their father eyes. Although somebody needs to speak the truth and stop keeping the rap a dirty secret. love heals openly not secretly. Men want the best for their girls but truth makes you strong with in. The 22 year old man can not live in the truth that he raped a 15 year old girl. Why have he not come clean about the rape. I understand mistake but why keep it a secret. Why he has not told his girlfriend? That secret effects the trust level in their relationship. I hope it woks out

Just the other day when I was taking my daughter into school. She started crying and she said "dad I have something to big to tell you and you won't understand" . I knew what she was going to say so I told her "Im here for you, please tell me" . As she was crying she said "Dad I was raped by ( the mans name) " .. Ill leave that out for now. My first words was "I believe you.., I love you.., and Im here for you. I composed myself well in front of my daughter. Thank God Ive had over a week to stomach this whole thing... So Im glad she told me. I have made her a counselor appointment for next week. Here's my new delima my daughter says " Dad I dont want to press charges I just want to forget about the whole thing. My daughter doesn't want to tell anyone else but me.. I dont know if I should proceed against her wishes. I dont want her to regret that she told me. She was very adamant about not talking to anyone about it... I am being supportive towards my daughter but once again I feel Ive come to another roadblock. How can I proceed with from here? I will keep my daughter in counseling however she's not going to talk about the rape to the conseolur. She knows if she does it will get reported. I want it reported!!! As soon as I get the green light Im going to proceed in every way I can to prosecute and label this sack of shit a child molester or atleast make sure hes on the sexual predator registry. And since this is a public forum Ill leave out what I believe should happen to him. Im sure you all can imagine.. Anyways, how can I convince my daughter to come forward so I can proceed? I want to keep her trust all while getting her to tell someone else? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

The thought that keeps going though my mind is this.. Maybe if she could talk to someone who has gone though something like this. Maybe they could inspire her. I feel helpless at times and yes I know this is about my daughter I just dont know how else to feel or react as a dad.?

have you every been scared to death? I know your daughter is scared to death even with your loving arms right there. your daughter will get courage but courage takes time. YOU ARE RIGHT YOU SHOULD BE ANGER. one thing about anger it clouds our judgment. Have her sister been told her boyfriend raped her sister. family crisis can be hard to work though. I hope relief comes soon (XOXO)

Her mother only calls or sees my daughter once in a blue moon. Her mother also adores the piece of shit that did this to my little girl. As far as my daughter's older sister? Lol.. I can hear my oldest daughter and her mother saying this was all made up and it didnt happen.. It's a sad shame that I raised a older daughter who would think her younger sister waa lieing about this. On top of that my daughter who was raped said to me. " Dad I dont want anything to with ANYONE over there. I just want to forget it ever happened". So no I wont be telling any of them. They will find out once this thing cones out.. And I wont goto my grave until justice is served. I wont stop I wont rest until he is punished for his crimes. I am a dad and a father. At times it's only with the grace of God and the thought that my other children need me that keeps me sane and able to carry on. Im just not the type of dad that could ever let something like this go. I know Im ranting here but I have no-one else I can confide in. Therefore I unload it here.. I want to thank EVERYONE for thier advice and kind words.. It means so much just to talk to others who have experienced this to know my daughter isn't alone..

One thing about the truth it comes out :( XOXO I am so sorry her sister would not believe and love her now. does she still talk to your girlfriend ? I wish I could forget the rape but it gets locked in your soul. I am thankful she has a dad to confide in so she not alone. You continue to love your daughter with no judgment she will find courage to confront this matter.

You can go to parents whose children have been sexually abused support board and ask questions there.

You know what needs to be done I think in time she will be ready too. So sorry I completely understand.

Do you have the name of the web site?

I am a rape victim. MY step dad raped me for 4 years. When I finally told my dad and step mom what was going on they were immediately there for me. You handled your daughters news better than my dad did. He ended up punching a wall. IF you ever need someone to ask questions to I will be here for you. I wish your daughter the best of luck with everything. Oh and make sure that she doesn't disconnect herself from her friends because those are going to be the people that help her through it all. Other than you and your gf.