Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
I was raped several years ago, and now my boyfriend and I are sexually active. When we have sex, when he puts his penis inside of me I tense up and then it hurts as he puts it in further and hurts for days after. I do not know what to do. I need advice.
when that time comes, try to focus on YOU and how you're feeling at each moment. are you okay with what is happening? are you okay with what he's doing? is your mind elsewhere?
take breaks. you said when he enters you, you tense up. up until that time, you're okay with everything else (relaxed)?
talk to him about it. if it hurts, stop. let him know.
I'm sorry i can't really help you here....keep your head up. maybe talk to your doctor, too.