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Confused...Am I over it?

laurae1
laurae1
So about two months ago, my previous rapes were really bothering me. But, i told my boyfriend and worked through a few things. Honestly, i dont even think about them anymore. I sleep better, I can openly talk to him about them. But, i still dont ever want to tell anyone else. I dont know if i am ok and through the pain or if i am just shoving it all away again like i have previously... I really hope i am over them. Been over 3 years from my first and over 1 from the second. Weird, but i really feel ok. I dont wanna talk about them and i still wont tell my parents. I am just afraid that they will come back up again or if me and my bf break up, will i be ok?
deleted_user
deleted_user
i cant answer that an afraid but know how you feel,,i thought i was over mine too but i am not now that am under investigation at work and have a grievance against my employer for bullying n harrassment it all come back worse.. think i had just blocked it out... i dontt think we will ever get over it but we will learn how to deal with it better
EmpoweredOKC
EmpoweredOKC
Do a google search for "rape trauma syndrome." This sounds like you have entered "stage two", which is a period of apparent outward adjustment. In this stage, survivors often proclaim, "I'm over it; I hardly think about it anymore; that's in the past; why do I have to talk about this?"

The scary thing is that this stage is temporary, and feelings of crisis may eventually return. The GOOD thing is that you are also approaching "stage Three -- Resolution."