Rape Support Group

If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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driftwod1
driftwod1
I am at a really low point at the moment. Its coming up to the anniversary of the rape next month and Im struggling. I was raped by a close friend of mine nearly six years ago and met my now ex boyfriend a year afterwards and i was a mess, we dated for 3 years but he finally said he couldn't deal with my depression, mood swings etc. Trouble is I haven't been able to get close to anyone since, Im frightened of not only men but also the fear of rejection. I tried so hard and gave him all my trust and it wasn't enough. I don't necessarily miss him but the closeness, I am always going to be alone?
DayDreaminDreamer
DayDreaminDreamer
Your fears are normal reaction to rape.

Rape is something that will have a lasting impact on your life. However, the experience is something you can recover from and live a healthy, happy, balanced life.

Some people find talking therapies helpful. Have you tried any of them to help you find the way to deal with your fears?
TaliaFerrera12
TaliaFerrera12
I have serious issues with relationships as well. Since my engagement ended I have more of less stopped trying to date. I am going of what my granny told me once. "A person can no be completely content with another unless they are at first completely content with themselves." I have to be comfortable with myself before I can be comfortable with another person. Good lcuk.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel the same way. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, but I feel as if we are slowing growing apart. As if this rape is a wedge being driven between us. He says it is all me because he says I am always being a "b&*tch" my sister tells me the same way. If he leaves me I will never be with another person again. But that is because I feel like I cannot trust anything with a penis.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i think i was raped this morning he told me to stop crying while he was on top of me so i tried so hard to stop crying i was also raped a year ago in may and it doesnt go away either is there a difference in the way rape is or is it just im being stupid about this morning
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was raped 26 yrs ago, I never told anyone for ages and when I did I was called a liar - by my own sister! Never told my parents who I still live with as I am physically disabled. My sister said it couldn't of happened to me because I am disabled but it DID happen. I knew him and trusted him. He stole everything, my self esteem, confidence, self respect. I was a virgin when it happened. When people ask how r u, I smile and say I am fine but inside I am in bits. Feels like he will always control my life.
ShortJoy
ShortJoy
Have you tried counseling? It sounds like you have post traumatic rape syndrome, and you may benefit from working with a therapist that specializes in this problem.