Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
I was sexually assaulted back in August 2013 but every day it still sticks with me. It has changed my outlook on life, but I'm still grateful that I have become a stronger person because of it (though the outcome did totally suck). I think I've moved on a lot and found hope and healing, but it still bothers me all the time. I don't have flashbacks and nightmares anymore, but I get so upset that just when I'm starting to trust guys they do such bullshit moves.
The guy who raped me was a psychiatrist. I don't understand how someone in his position could do such a thing. He is supposed to help other vulnerable women and children, and yet he himself lives such an evil lifestyle. I went to the College of Physicians and Surgeons and they dismissed it because he was never my doctor (but we were acquaintances). Everyday I regret the fact that I ever told any authorities. They do nothing and just re-victimize the woman. But I am not sorry for the lessons I learned and how I have helped many other women because of it.
I try to pray for my abuser daily and remember that he is a broken man and also needs healing. I hope he will one day come to terms with himself and that he will learn how to treat his wife with the respect she deserves. But I still can't get over the fact that he is a psychiatrist...
The guy who raped me was a psychiatrist. I don't understand how someone in his position could do such a thing. He is supposed to help other vulnerable women and children, and yet he himself lives such an evil lifestyle. I went to the College of Physicians and Surgeons and they dismissed it because he was never my doctor (but we were acquaintances). Everyday I regret the fact that I ever told any authorities. They do nothing and just re-victimize the woman. But I am not sorry for the lessons I learned and how I have helped many other women because of it.
I try to pray for my abuser daily and remember that he is a broken man and also needs healing. I hope he will one day come to terms with himself and that he will learn how to treat his wife with the respect she deserves. But I still can't get over the fact that he is a psychiatrist...
Big hugs!!!
I admire the fact you can pray for your rapist. I cannot pray for my rapist and much less daily. I don't think he will ever learn how to treat his wife with respect... or come to terms with himself and want to heal... At least not my rapist.
I reported him twice , but nothing was done either and he kept attending other clients. I know he raped other people. Take care of yourself.
Thanks for your reply. You're right, the truth is that many people don't change. When I told the police they said that most people who have raped once have raped before.... it's not their first time. It's unfortunate that at least in Canada we don't have a stricter legal code... hardly anyone gets caught and almost everyone is let off the hook which further perpetuates the violence towards women. They lament the fact that more women don't tell the authorities, but why should she? They don't give her any incentives!
Neverthless, I have to put my trust in something, so I put it in a higher being (God). It's taken me a long time to come to terms with it and in many ways I'm still struggling, but I know that I can't do anything more and the legal system isn't going to help me out, so I trust that God will have everything under control. I don't know if my rapist will ever change or not... I figure that's between him and God. I just pray for him because it helps me have a better perspective of the whole situation. It turns my anger into something productive... even though for the most part I often feel it's all an exercise in futility anyways...