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soledadwilkins 05/29/2015

Im 39 weeks pregnant and a FTM. I was 184 pre pregnancy and am now 280. I am so depressed about it I don't even want to leave the house anymore. Im terrified that after the baby is born ill have tons of loose skin just hanging. My husband tells me he still finds me beautiful and wants to be intimate but anytime he touches me or we have sex I cry in the bathroom because I feel so terrible about myself. Im feeling really alone and like I have no one to talk to. Have any other moms been through this or could offer any advice? Thanks in advance.

jordanmann12 05/29/2015

Hello!

You are definitely not alone. I am 26 weeks pregnant and I don't even know what I weigh because I always refuse to look when I go to the doctor. I don't let my husband look either and the doctor is always sure not to mention it to me during appointments. It sounds like your husband is very supportive of you, which always helps!

Has your doctor shown any concerns regarding your weight gain? If he/she has not, then don't be too alarmed. After the baby, you can really focus on trying to lose weight and being healthy. You are so close to having your baby!! :)

Be strong, girl and hang in there!!

soledadwilkins 05/29/2015

Thank you so much. No they haven't really mentioned all to much other than I have definitely gained over what I was supposed to. Im just starting to really see the skin that is going to start hanging after the baby is born. My husband is very supportive and always tells me im beautiful. However, I don't want to even leave the house anymore because I feel like everyone is starting at me. I suppose it would be different if I had just gained weight in the stomach area however it is everywhere now =[. Congrats on your pregnancy and hope its going well for you!!!

jordanmann12 05/30/2015

I understand what you mean!! The weight gain for me has been more in my legs than anywhere else. I was pretty concerned about this..and still am...but my doctor said that your body will adapt as your body is growing and that means, growing in other places. I just keep reminding myself of that.

You might have extra skin after the baby is born and that's okay! I know it's hard to believe that. I feel that its hard to make total diet changes when you feel like you are just going to gain weight anyways. Try going for walks with your husband and eating the best you can. Way easier said than done, I know.

Halterbroke 05/30/2015

I gained over 100 lbs NOT pregnant, from medications, a few years ago, and I lost almost 90 and had no loose skin hanging. So that may not happen to you. (((hugs)))

soledadwilkins 05/31/2015

Ya im trying to. I used to train horses up until about month seven actually. But for obvious reasons had to stop. I still go out and walk my horses around etc. im still fairly active id like to say. I keep trying to stay positive about the weight gain but now that I can see it in my legs face and arms im starting to feel defeated. Today my maternity pants ripped which was just the icing on the cake for me. I cried for about an hour. At this point it feels like nothing is going to get better. Which of course I know is the wrong approach to it.

I appreciate the support. It is nice to have someone to talk to about it that is for sure! thanks you guys =]

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