you and i are "depressed" for different reasons, but i can relate a little. a lot of stuff started popping up during the later part of my pregnancy.

...and the part where you said your fiance is worried and keeps telling you not to feel this way...it kinda made me smile, because now i know i wasn't alone. my husband was the same way...

...and i get you. it's not that we WANT to be depressed and feel like crap. i mean, who in their right mind would WANT to feel this? ESPECIALLY when they're PREGNANT??

the only advice i can give you is to breathe. close your eyes and take a deep breath. and wait it out. if you feel you can't wait any longer, i'd encourage you to seek professional help. if one doesn't help, find another one..

...and i think that it'd be good for your to encourage your fiance to go (but only if you're comfortable)...cuz that way, maybe he'll have a better understanding of what you're going through...

...i didn't take my husband with me...and sometimes i feel like he thinks i'm "superwoman" or something. if i feel so nauseous i can't move, he thinks i'm just being lazy. he told me i was making him look bad in front of his family (because, at the time, his family was doing a whole make-over with the house...rearranging furniture and dusting...and i was laying down majority of the time...

but keep the communication open! and keep your head up. you're strong and you can get through this. for yourself and for the baby.

I have bipolar and i take medication that is at a low dosage. My obgyn didnt like it at first but i didnt want to go manic or get to depressed. There are meds out that you can take while pregnant. Also talking to a counselor would help too. I try to set goals for myself but i still get depressed as well at times. So far everything looks good with this pg and i m not worried about the low dose of triliptal i m on with ablify as most women have been on meds three to four times my dosage and had healthy babies.
I have some information on my other computer on meds that are safe with pg and bipolar. Just right now i m in process of a big move.
I do know that you can be on depakote and nurse. Also there are a few others that you can with as well. Just depends on dosage.

Anything i can do to help? I understand alot on the bipolar front and pg too.
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carrie

I second what the others said about communication. Find a therapist or counselor to talk to, find a support group--even here at DS, share how you feel with friends, family, anyone who will listen. Start a journal. Go for walks to clear your mind. Start exercising--that's proven to help lift your mood. Dive into something that interests you, and learn everything you can about it (maybe pregnancy?). I hope some of these suggestions help. I know it's hard to get out of a funk when you are in one, but you just gotta take that first step :)

just try to keep busy...exzcercise could be a good opetion for you..it is a great stress reliever..if yo are up to it. i became very depressd iarlier in my pregnancy they wanted me on meds but i refused and am glad that i did because even though i have my rough days i am feeling much better. i hope you do too.

I think depression is common in a lot of pregnancies. I know I have been a bit down myself the last few months. It is very difficult to snap out of when you're going through so many other changes. I agree with everyone else, find a councelor, or maybe try some mild exercise to try and keep focused and positive. I hope you feel better soon....Hang in there sweetie.

All these suggestions sound good, but also, don't forget to get outside and get some sunshine (if you can find some!) Spring has been WAY delayed here in Kansas, and the winter blahs on top of everything else can make you want to cocoon. It's hard enough being pregnant, and tired, and when your DF doesn't understand. My therapist taught me some deep breathing/visualization/relaxation methods when I was going through my divorce, and they really helped too.

Don't forget the power of prayer, as well. There's a verse in Phillippians (4:8) that I run through my mind whenever my thoughts turn dark - which they do at times.

"...whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."

Sometimes just saying that over and over to myself helps me turn my thoughts around.

God bless, and I'll be praying for you.

My fiance wants to help me but it is so hard to explain how I am feeling to someone who was never felt like this. I was in bed last night (for probably the 5th time that day) and I just started crying. He came in to the bedroom and tried to talk to me but I just wanted to be alone, and I really didn't want him to see me like that. He is at least trying which is more than I can say for anyone else that is physically here.

I feel so lousy I mean how can someone so sweet and kind want to be with me ... ever. I don't know maybe I just have to much time on my hands to think about stuff like that.