My friend, I am so sorry for your loss. I have tried to answer your prayer request twice now but the tears have kept me from it. Bless your heart Stanley. I want to tell you my story, many on DS have already heard it but God has laid you on my heart to tell you.
In Nov. 2006 I became very ill. I was taken to the hospital and straight into the ICU unit. I had double pneumonia, ceptic (blood poisoning) and a staph infection. I had cut the back of my head on a roofing job and it became infected and turned into blood poisoning. This got into my lungs with the double pneumonia and I had to have three operations on my lungs and all the infected area(size of a baseball) cut out of my head. They had to remove all the puss pockets in my lungs which left them looking like a piece of Swiss cheese.
All the antibiotics that they gave would not do any good and I continued to become worse and worse. Finally I went into a coma and had to be put on life support. My kidneys shut down and by this time it was Dec and I was barley alive. I had many people praying for me in the waiting rooms. All the State Guard friends of mine came from all across South Carolina. They say close to a hundred and many of my fellow clergy had their church members there and praying in church.
On Christmas Eve the doctors called in my family and told them that was all that could do except for one more antibiotic that was new to the market. They were going to give it a try but they did not expect me to live through the night. My family said their goodbyes and a Chaplain gave me my last rites and anointed me with oil. During the night I went into cardiac arrest and my heart stopped. I was dead for a brief period of time.
Stanley, during this time I came upon a place that was outside of a main doorway and there was my grandma, grandpa, uncle Grady, and many more family and friends that had already passed away. It did not look like them but I just knew some how who each and everyone of them were. they were if this makes any sense. Stanley, it wasn't as much seeing Heaven as it was the feeling of Peace, Love and calmness that came over me. It is a feeling that I have never experienced in my life and I had this feeling for months afterwards.
Stanly, I looked toward the doorway and started to make my way inside toward this feeling and toward the light that I knew was the light of God. As I came closer to the entrance my best friend James Spearman stepped in front of me and would not let me pass. No matter what I did he stopped me with such a loving feeling coming from him. I thought to myself, "Why is James here among the dead?. He is not dead because I just have talked to him a few weeks ago."
Stanly, my best friend stepped to one side and allowed me to look through this doorway and there was a land with blue mountains, beautiful trees, fields of flowers and there were people everywhere but not in human bodies but in a heavenly form. As, I kept looking there were the most beautiful white horses, dogs, cats, birds, squirrels, sheep and many other species. They too did not look as they do here on earth but I somehow just knew.
Then in my heart I heard these words, "Randy, your work is not finished. Go and take care of all my creatures and their human companions." As soon as all of this was there, it was gone.
On our Lords birthday I started to improve and I finally became well enough to go home the end of Jan 2007. This is another reason of many that I am a firm believer in the Power of Prayer.
I was kept on a stomach tube for months because I could not talk or swallow food. I had to learn to walk again and during my surgery on my head I think they cut a nervous because I have no feeling in my left leg. My lungs are in very bad shape but I am alive. When I came home I asked my wife where my best friend James was and she began to cry,she said, "Randy, James passed away a few weeks after you went into a coma."
Stanly, at this moment I knew that what I had seen was real. This was no dream or drugs but real and I wanted to tell you all of this to let you know that your wife is in a wonderful place now Stanley. She will be waiting on you when your time comes to usher you into the presence of the Lord. I cannot imagine your pain and hurt right now but find relief in knowing that this is just temporary and one day you will be together for eternity.
I had a hard time for about eight months with the feeling that I did not belong here on earth anymore. I was a lost soul. I did not care to live and I did not want any part of earthly things. My lung specialist told me that he has seen many people like me with the same feeling after a near death experience. The soul is confused and does not know where it belongs. I still have these feelings now but just not as bad. My soul knows where it belongs and I have had a hard time keeping it here on earth..lol.
Stanley, I pray that my story helps you to some degree and please know this, this message is sent by God's love for you and those two beautiful children. I will be praying for you and your kids but you hang in there my friend because I see many blessings headed your way. May the Lord's blessing be upon you and yours....Chaplain Turner
Lord Jesus, I come to you tonight on my knees on behalf of Stanley and his two beautiful children. Lord, please bless this family and send your blessings down upon them. Lord, we ask that you take special care of Stalin's wife until the day that they both are reunited in your Kingdom of Glory. Give Stanley the strength to carry on and to care for his two children. Lord, Stanley is one of your children and he needs you right now so send down a angel to comfort him and to protect my new friend. Lord, we thank you in advance for all your blessings and love that you are about to bestow upon this family. We ask not these things for ourselves but for Stanley and his family. In Jesus Christ mighty name we pray. Amen.

Lord i pray for stanley...Lord touch his heart and show him that he is not alone....He has you....I pray for the children lord...I pray that they are touch by stanley and god so they dont feel alone....I pray that you draw a closeness of all of them to fill the void that they are feeling....let them know they are not alone....for you are with them...I pray for support for them....Thanks you Jesus...

I am sorry for your loss...I dont know how old your children are but you now need to be there for them....we are here for support if you need us....hugs

Dear Lord, I come to right now and pray that you wrap your loving arms around Stanley. I am sure that the pain he must be feeling is overwhelming. I pray for your spirit to help him be comforted and know that he is not alone. I pray Father for the children. They need your love and comfort through this time. Be with them. I pray that you fill Stanley with Peace, Father. The peace that passes all understanding. In Jesus Mighty Name I pray, amen.

STANLEY I AM SO VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. I CAN'T IMAGINE WHAT YOUARE FEELING BUT IT MAKES ME SAD TO SEE A BROTHER HURTING. PLEASE TAKE COMFORT IN THE LORD AND KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE....LOVE YOUR SISTER IN CHRIST...BECCA

HEAVENLY FATHER PLEASE WATCH OVER YOUR SON STANLEY AND HELP TO EASE HIS PAIN IN THE LOSS OF HIS DEAR WIFE. LORD I KNOW THAT THIS WAS YOUR WILL AND DO NOT QUESTION THIS BUT PLEASE BE WITH HIM DURING THIS TIME AND GATHER HIM INTO YOUR LOVING ARMS FOR COMFORT IN THIS TIME OF GREAT SARROW...IN CHRISTS NAME

Stanley remember you are never alone, I know it can feel this way. Let your self grieve.

Father in Heaven I ask you to give Stanley some peace. Show him ways that he may find what he needs.

Please give him strength to care for his children.

In Christ name Amen

My heart and prayers for you and your precious children that you will find peace and comfort.