This sounds like my house growing up and it would trigger me too. I am glad someone called, I was going to suggest calling every time they do it.. the non-emergency line until the cops get tired of it and take someone away or they get evicted.

I don't know of any easy way through spots like this, Cecil. I am so sorry you have to endure this. I think that would trigger the most rock solid of us.

Did getting on here and posting about it help any? Sometimes venting helps.

Here we have to call 911 the non emergency line won't take the call.. I am glad someone else called though. The previous times I asked my other neighbor if it bothered her and she said she never heard a thing. She was so FOS. One couldn't help but hear it. When my daughter was here she would call but my daughter is at the other end of the spectrum and calls the police at the drop of a hat.

Thanks Arfie. The police showing up helped. The fact that someone else called makes me feel like I could call too when it happens again.

Glad it did. As someone who grew up in a violent home with bars on the windows to keep us from escaping the flying fists, that kind of thing would trigger me, too. Vent all you need to, Cecil.

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Vent away.

I'm guessing they rent??? How about calling the landlord?

I get triggered by the bumping around of the three kids next door. Drives me bonkers. Also bothers me when I see the cases of beer that go in and out all the time...

Want to live on a huge farm with neighbors a quarter mile down the road...

I live in an apartment complex. I have told management. There have been complaints about this woman left and right. She puts cig butts all over the place. She let her dog poop in the basement. She would leave her laundry in washer/dyers unattended for days. The police have been called several times. Bottom line: the rent is paid so management doesn't care. I complained a couple of weeks ago about the constant fighting that begins at 6am. The most management does is to put up general notices reminding tenants of the rules. I am trying to move (not just because of the neighbors) but I'm not able to do it just yet...besides crappy neighbors are everywhere.

Anytime the quiet enjoyment of your rental is being compromised. Check the law in your area, or your rental agreement, you should find something about being entitled to "quiet enjoyment." You might want to talk to your landlord as well.

Good luck

Sounds miserable, CecilB, but here's a thought: can you and other tenants being bothered maybe group together and submit a group complaint to management? Or agree on some other strategy, including calling the police? Generally, if police get repeated calls to the same residence, they'll find a reason to arrest someone, in my experience. You can also check local noise ordinances.

Barring that, can you buy a lot of cheap area rugs and nail them to the walls/ceiling as noise-buffers? I've done that. *sigh*

Good lucka nd gentle support.

I'd go back to management with a copy of your lease and highlight all the places where she's been violating hers.

Do they know about the poop? Maybe they should give her the 24 notice to do an inspection; I'll bet they find a HECK of a lot more in there than even you realize... Could even be a fire hazard over there.

Then, I'd threaten to contact your local government agency to report your complex for not taking steps to evict her. This is not right. You deserve to live in peace.

I like the idea with the rugs though the ceilings are so cheap in here an area rug would bring the whole thing down. I am going to call the office tomorrow and tell them about the weekend.

I struggle so much with calling the police or even the landlord. I mean , it terrifies me. The landlord I can manage but the last time I had to call the police I was literally crying and shaking. I was curled up in a corner totally having a melt down. I don't know why.

Awww, Cecil.

I'm so sorry. Truly, deeply.

I dunno' if you read my story, but ... if you care to ... you'll see why I believe I understand what you're going through:

http://nbeener.blogspot.com/2014/11/the-destruction-of-medically-disabled.html

I don't know how _I_ would ever make that call again. It's a horrible feeling.

I tried a lot of things to 'passively' help -- music, earplugs, music through headphones, TV, white noise......

Rugs can definitely be a big help.

I also agree that .... you're far more vulnerable if you 'go this alone,' so ... enlisting the help of neighbors ... in going to the landlord or the authorities ... could be hugely helpful.

I probably shouldn't weigh in on stories like yours. I ... probably can't be objective. Please take my comments with that hefty grain of salt.

When my story started ... one option was to move, but ... for a million compelling reasons ... I simply couldn't.

If your situation gets worse, or doesn't get better, and you ARE in a position to move ... sometimes it is the best answer.

You and your neighbors could also make contact with a landlord-tenant legal clinic, explain the situation, and ask their advice.

I do NOT mean ... start a lawsuit. I think that's a last resort. I mean ... they can often help you get your needs met without going into litigation.

When dogs bark, now ... nearby to the house in which I'm staying ... it takes me back ... right back .... to all of it. I understand. Whether it's barking or fighting ... pretty much the same deal.

I hope it gets better. It's a misery.

So sorry for what you are going through. I don't call the police either cause police have never helped me cause the police were involved in the cult I was brought up in.
They make sound proofing board that you can put up as well and doesn't need to have anything to put up on ceiling if you have it cut so it fits tight enough.
I don't have trouble calling to many people but police and landlord's are some I can't do easily if at all. The landlord I have now is great so I could call him easily. I know my landlord does things here cause we hadn't even moved in yet and the neighbor was leaving a 12 week old puppy out in the freezing cold and we called him and he took care of it. Than the next time I got the courage to go over to the neighbor myself and she took the dog in. Next time I will call animal control. I won't watch a kid or animal be hurt. I got courage from the landlord this time cause I knew he was on board. Although now my neighbor won't speak to us but I don't care accept it makes it a little uncomfortable. Good luck.

Thanks for the ideas, Lilly. Since I will be moving I won't be doing any modifications though the quilt on the wall seems doable. Luckily I don't have any issues with the apartment that shares a wall. I never hear a peep from them.

All the chaos comes from above my head.