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bluedragon41
bluedragon41
Uhh...
I have a BDSM submissive. He's an experienced pervert, helping a n00b learn the ropes and other things.
...with emotionally abusive relationships #1, 2, and 3 in my rearview mirror?
Having clear precise communication is really good!

I have been used to NOT getting what I want or need at all or not without a HUGE fight...I have been used to being lied to, to being misled, to being head tripped, guilt tripped, gas lighted, browbeat...

...Getting cared for...and having someone who will do what I tell him? Awesome!
He sometimes want to submit RIGHT NOW...but if he gets annoying I can take it out on him and it makes him happy. :p

Communication HAS to be precise in this deal. Failure to do that can produce injury. Safety demands we be precisely on the same page!

I LIKE the guy. He's funny. He's a smartass. He's not book-smart, but far from dumb.

He's beating ( heh ) out a five-drug cocktail in therapeutic effect.
LillyPotter
LillyPotter
hugs, blue xo
aliceunchained87
aliceunchained87
I think it's great that this relationship works so well for you! I lean fairly heavy into the BDSM world and find comfort there too, because (1) communication is imperative and the entire community stands behind that, and (2) consent is real; while no may not mean "no" there is always a word that means "stop" and when someone doesn't stop the entire BDSM community is there to make them stop.

I am happy to hear that you are happy. :)
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
I've got no understanding of BDSM myself. But I've had a French professor friend since 1988 who is a sweetheart of a man who takes tender care of his bedridden, depressed wife. At the same time, he's a Marquis de Sade expert. Again, now that I've said that, I add once more than I know for a fact that he's a gentle, kind soul. Don't ask me to explain it. So it's literally a very foreign area to me, but I'm glad to hear you're happy, blue!
cheesecake88
cheesecake88
blue, I just started watching a Showtime series called "Billions"...interesting white-collar crime thing...main characters have something going on the side.. I can't explain either, foreign to me/only half through the episodes...well I got offtrack here, but just mentioning it and glad to hear you are happy! Hugs
arfie
arfie
Not sure what BDSM is, but the general gee's attached make me think it is one of the yaddahs my kiddie whorehouse managers tried to channel me into back in the pre-acronym days. My warrior nature was able to bring high-power community leaders to their knees (literally) before I learned how to talk. They sure seemed hungry for somebody that could see through their charade. A child will do. Don't think I will plug the acronym into my search engine this time. Sounds like a trigger event inside my own strictly personals.

Butttttttttaaaaa. . .

So far as I can tell, we don't get to lose our psyche dysfunctions without unpacking the bag. Switch on your awareness radar and go where it leads you.

Sort freely, sort often.

Continued support while you sort.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I have no real knowledge of that world either but I'm glad it helps you sweetie and you are both getting what you need with clear boundaries... Big hug...xo
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