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Victim, Surviivor, Thriver

Spiral
Spiral

Found this on another site this morning and it really made me think about where I am in my recovery


Victims:


- believe they do not deserve nice things or try for a good life


- low self-esteem, shame, guilt and unworthy


- hyper vigilant


- alone,  selfish, damaged,  hopeless


- confused and numb


- uses outer world to hide from self


- believes everyone else is better,  less damaged and stronger


- puts ones own needs last


- often wounded by unsafe others.



Survivor:


- struggles for reason and a chance to heal


- sees self as wounded and healing


- uses tools learned to relax


- seeking help and feels they deserve it


- Naming what happened and grieving


- stays with emotional pain and sees hope


- stops hiding,  can talk about what happened and has compassion towards self.



Thrive:


- shows gratitude and is grateful for "new" life


- oneness, and is comfortable with self


- was wounded,  now healing


- living in the present


- faith in self and life


- understands emotional pain will pass


- no longer needs to tell their story


- protects self from unhealthy others and can say "no"  guilt free


- places self first


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arfie
arfie
Can we call this a good use of your comparative talents?

Tasty chew, CC. Thank you.
donnawanda
donnawanda
This is very interesting and shows us where to aim. I think that in order to heal we have to acknowledge the injury, and sometimes the original injury lies in childhood. I read once (don't know if it's true) that one difference between the people who are traumatized and develope PTSD and those who don't is the presence of a traumatic childhood.
brokenlady47
brokenlady47
Makes sense to me Spiral. Thanks for sharing.

hugs

Manda xx
Spiral
Spiral
It was an interesting exercise for me to do. I compared my thoughts and feelings to this and then figured out where I was in terms of healing. I am a healthy all over the board kind of girl. Lol
Muskoka007
Muskoka007
I like that, it shows how healthy people think. I could definitely relate to the second one on the list. Thank you for sharing
DarkGypsyG
DarkGypsyG
thank you for sharing. very useful. nice seeing where i fall within the descriptors.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Yeah, in my seminary training for ER chaplaincy we read a good book in our class on trauma. Moving On... From Victim to Survivor by Gillian Jackson (Author) It was really inspiring to me for seeing where I'd been and where I could still go.
cheesepuff77
cheesepuff77
Thanks, good info to chew on!
Pag.mars
Pag.mars
I second what donnawanda says, this really gives you some insight on where to aim. I still feel like I am in that victim stage. Still trying to survive.
Thank you for sharing this, this was extremely enlightening :)
Spiral
Spiral
For me, I think I have parts of me in all three stages.
iwontbackdown1
iwontbackdown1
I share these categories as parts of who I am right this moment. Great post...usable, real and inspiring. Thanks.
CASS06
CASS06
Beautiful,, emotional pain will pass... thank God its such a downer !!
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