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Kate1976 05/18/2018

I know I left folks hanging a bit and have been quiet on posts, but a quick update for those who lent support. I had a decent Mother’s Day with my daughters. I did my best to avoid Facebook did see that my mother posted a long Mother’s Day post about what a great mom my sister is to her fur babies and nothing about me. Stung a bit but I am reminding myself not to let it get in my head to much. I sent her a text and cards with pictures of the girls and have received no response. Definitely makes me sad, as I feel like my mother doesn’t really care about me. She doesn’t recognize that I have an option to relax and enjoy Mother’s Day without guilt and obligations.

As far as the next session with the therapist, I couldn’t build the courage to ask about the non-response. She seemed in a good mood and I didn’t feel right bringing her down. Just my natural way. At the end, she asked about any thoughts of SH or suicide and I just told her I had a really bad Friday night but didn’t do anything. Not ideal but I felt she never received the message. Thanks again for all the support!

undeservingaspie 05/18/2018

Well done for not harming urself on friday. Thats amazing. Sorry u got no response. Gentle hugs. X

mujicaptsd 05/18/2018

Kate, "She seemed in a good mood and I didn’t feel right bringing her down. Just my natural way. " Don't worry about your therapist's mood, your therapist is there for your mood, ok? It's my natural way, too, yet it's a PTSD symptom in and of itself for us all here. Therapist Pete Walker wrote about it. Feel free to let yourself be supported.
http://pete-walker.com/codependencyFawnResponse.htm

Kate1976 05/18/2018

Thanks, very much a work in progress here. Hope your ankle is improving too!

SimpsonsOK 05/18/2018

Kate, therapists are professionals. They are not there for you to concern yourself with bringing their mood down, They adjust to each client, but you need to keep things honest with her. Do tell her next session. Hugs.

Beatha 05/19/2018

I'm the same as you: Don't want to make my therapist feel bad. She knows that many of her clients have that problem, though (the fawn response muji mentioned) and so she keeps repeating that it's not my responsibility to look after her or protect her. It's not, and it's not your responsibility either.
Trust is essential in a therapeutic relationship. I don't know about you, but if my therapist didn't answer a message when I'm in a crisis, that would definitely harm my trust in her (she always does answer - as quickly as possible). I second what others have said: Do mention it to her. Get clarity.

Congratulations on not self-harming!

And sorry about your mother causing you sadness. It's a bit late to say this but you deserved to have a happy, enjoyable mother's day.

jaynib 05/19/2018

I agree with others here, you shouldn't worry about your therapist's feelings. Mother's Day stings for a lot of people. I'm sorry that your own mother didn't reach out to you. It's right that it should hurt and all you can do is acknowledge that it matters then leave the rest to God. Your mother has her own brokenness that she has to deal with. Try to see her that way and also remember that she doesn't have the power to fix you if she can't even fix herself. I bet you are a fantastic mother. Remember that the hurts you experience just make you have more empathy for others and less likely to hurt others in the same way as long as you acknowledge that it mattered. Hugs.

Scott93 05/20/2018

You had a good Mother's Day with your daughters is music to my ears. Remember that always and hold them close. I would give anything for my young children to see their Mom again. And see their sadness gone. It's your Moms loss she fails to reach out. Deep within her I know she's hurting. Stay strong for your children. They need you healthy.

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